Having sex again after being assaulted before?

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I've been having a hard time getting into sex and enjoying it. There's a huge mental block. I was sexually asualted 7 months ago. I really feel this is the problem. How do you have sex again and actually be into it and enjoy it? I do want the sex with my boyfriend but he says he can tell I'm not into it and my mind is somewhere else. Even tho I truly want to have sex.

Answer 1

Danny_dan92 | 2.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I understand that you might feel weird about it.

I’m in the military, and I can say that ptsd does not just apply to combat.

It applies to any traumatic experience.

That being said, maybe bring this up to the guy. See how he handles it. Maybe him making you feel comfortable would help.

Remember, the assault put on you, was the case because it was not consensual on your end. So sex with this guy would obviously be the opposite of that

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Answer 2

art84 | 320 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

I wouldn't be able to enjoy sex if I was assaulted. Have you tried counseling?

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Answer 3

Anonymous

The worst thing you can do is feel obligated to have sex before you are ready. Took me almost 4 years to feel comfortable having sex at all, and even longer to have sex with a guy. Just keep in mind that what happened isn’t your fault, and recovery takes time.

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hannah7 | 105 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Congratulations on recovering and having a good boyfriend :) I think you can just kiss him and do oral or other things until you feel more relaxed. It just will take time.

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