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What can I do to get him to open up sexually?

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I (29F) and this guy (35) have been seeing each other. We like each other and can show we care, but when it comes to sex he has some hang-ups. Like he doesn't like HJs because he says it reminds him of masturbating, he doesn't like BJs because it reminds him of porn. He wants it "sweet" and when I ask what he means he doesn't give a clear answer. Doesn't like nudes, or phone sex, or me on top. I ask what does he want he can't tell me. He doesn't like it when I'm too loud and doesn't last long. He isn't turned on by anything else but his genitals. When I tell him what I like he seems "uncomfortable," I asked him if he even likes women and he said yes. Even when making out it seems too tame. Now, I'm sexually frustrated, he won't talk about it and I feel I'm dealing with a 16-year-old instead of a grown man. Ladies and guys, what can I do, or is there anything I can do? I like him but this is an issue for me. He seems more selfish and awkward. It would be one thing if he just didn't want to have sex, but he wants to but completely on his terms and he can't even be clear what those terms are.
What can I do to get him to open up sexually?
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