I was brought up in a male environment with lots of brothers and no sisters. I was a tomboy and overweight until I was 17. I have a male mind I feel, male sense of humour, I watch p*rn, I would be perceived a bit of a tom boy nowadays even thou I try to make an effort not to be I am naturally boyish. But when I was 17 I lost all my weight and without blowing my own trumpet people say I am stunning and should be a model. I am 23 now and struggle with this hugely, I was the fat tom boy for so long who longed for male attention. And now I can't handle it. But more difficult than this is girls don't like me. Or they do I think because I'm overly nice to everybody but can never get close to anyone. I only get on with men because I can chat like a bloke but around women I am insecure and self conscious. I wonder if I come across standoffish too. How can I change this and make some friends?