Why do women seem to associate 'Nice Guys' with 'Push-overs' or 'Just Friends'?Why do women seem to love the 'drama' of 'Bad Boys' that treat them like trash, and then they come crying to their 'Nice Guy Friends' for comfort?Why do you want a guy that treats you like trash, when you have a 'FRIEND' that can give you everything you say you want?
What are you talking about? lol
Yes it can be... When you're too nice, people see that as being weak so they try to use you and run all over you. That's why you have to be assertive and put your foot down.Trust me, I had experience.
I have very little experience with putting my foot down so I will work on it. Thank you very much!
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I'm sorry you feel that way. Yes, there is a time where being too nice is a bad thing. It's when you're so nice that you allow others to violate your personal boundaries. However, if you only implemented some rules of assertiveness the issue you're experiencing is solved. You don't need to "change" yourself, just add.
I understand fully. Thank you!
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it is a double edge sword to me. if you are too nice, you become a doormat, sometimes we need to put our foot down and say a no
Agreed, good answer.
^ ^ thank you :)
I will work on that. Thank you
Yesss i think its bad in a way cause people will take advantage of you but its also good cause you think about what people do to you & it makes you feel that way. But just try to not be so nice. My boyfriend is like that too & i hate it cause his coworkers are assholes to him & shit & he gets soo mad but he just lets it slide. I mean its good cause when he's mad at me i know that i can always talk to him & shit lol
-----> Bitch Status-----> Really nice/Borderline naive----> Nice but firm (You should be here)-----> Normal-----> Mean-----> Asshole status
Being nice is great. But don't confuse it with not standing up for yourself or allowing others to take advantage of you, belittle you, etc. Self-respecting niceness is great.
in a way it can be, but that's because i prefer to do things in moderation, i hardly go to an extreme unless required.
It is when it causes you pint up anger and resentment or people to take advantage of you.
Yes, cause people will take you for granted and just use you. Just don't fall on the category of being stupid cause sometimes, that's define as being too nice.
There's nothing wrong with being nice as long as you don't let people take advantage of you.
Yeah. At times it seems as if there's no point in it anymore. But don't let how some moron reacts stop you.
You're right, thank you.
You are welcome
I don't think too many people want to date pushovers for some reason.
What do you mean when things go sour? Like what?
For example, if I'm talking to a guy and they say something inappropriate I try to react as calm as possible instead of going off on them but then they throw a little hissy fit lol
Oh wow. And they have the guts to throw a fit. :)) I think in that situation, you did the right thing by acting mature. However, being "too nice" can be a bad thing. Anything too much can be bad. At least in this case, bad for you. It's usually the nice people who are taken advantage of. So when something like that happens to you, refuse and take a stand. That doesn't mean you have to be mean, but make sure they know that you're really standing up for yourself and that you won't let them step on you.
Thanks a lot for your input!
"If everyone thinks you're 'nice' then you will get no where in life." -John Mayer
Not a bad thing at all. But being too nice have downsides, you know. People could take advantage if you.
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