I saw an interesting video on how the whole alpha vs. beta male aggression dynamic started with researching wolf packs. The researcher later CHANGED his stance on this social/mating dynamic but nobody listened to him. College humor did a real good video this
As for me personally I've slept with over 40 women, but have only been in two long term relationships. I'm a "nice" guy and it's something I was born with. I have been taught to hate that characteristic about myself over the years because it's so called "beta" behavior. It's also supposed be the number one sole reason why I don't do well in long term relationships. For long time I hated myself for just wanting everybody to get along.
But I'm beginning to think that false. I have had plenty of women who have been attracted to me, slept with me and even fallen in love with me. I believe my PARANOIA of being abused for being a "nice" guy is what is really turning them off, not being a "nice" guy myself.
Of course a man should be strong and confident. We ALL know that. But not every confident man is a social all star. Some of them are really good at certain hobbies or careers. They have devotions to other things besides immediately punching out a guy who stares at their girlfriend for an extra second.
I think the alpha vs. beta argument is going to far and causing more shame and confusion nowadays. Just my thoughts.
- It's all bullshitVote A
- There's some truth to it, but it's going overboard. Confusing both men and womenVote B
- The concept is completely trueVote C
I've known this girl for 12 years and I always saw her as open-minded, more logical than most girls and not one who was impressionable by society standards.
Anyway, she told me that her ex-husband (who never cheated or was abusive) was a good man but NOT an alpha.