Why do people think promiscuous women have "issues"?

A lot of people say that sluts either daddy issues, insecurity issues, depression, sexual abuse history etc.

I was a very confident, beautiful woman.
I've never been a rape victim and no one sexually assaulted me either.
I had a great relationship with my father.
I didn't have depression or any mental disorders.

I had no "excuse" to be promiscuous. The reason I have a high sex drive and I enjoy sleeping with multiple men. I never cared about commitment and staying with one man. Why do people overlook and deny that as a reason?

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  • you're just seeing gender stereotypes and the double standard between the genders. Rock on being you, you sounds sexy as hell to me.

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  • I thought for a moment that I was reading something that I might have written. Certainly fits me to the T

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What Guys Said 31

  • They overlook it because you are an exception to the rule.

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    • I rest my point, as regards my deputisation question the other day.

  • Most of the time, promiscuous women DO have issues... A lot of many women's promiscuity is centered around a desire to feel desired and validated. Self esteem for both men and women comes from their relationship with their father, and siblings after that.

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  • That's because society is misogynistic and judges women behaviours and relationships. If a guy is promiscuous no one judges him, society even congratulates him! So yeah, associating free women who enjoy sex with no commitment with being "sluts" is something extremely wrong.

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  • Because you are looking at this all the wrong way. You're seeking an intellectual, cerebral explanation for an innate and genetically ingrained instinct within humanity.
    Speaking from the human behavioral expert's point of view here, in order to better understand the "whys" of this topic you must first better understand how human males and females have evolved over the millennia.
    The core trait within all species is to survive. If we go all the way back to our beginnings when humanity was still a primal, tribalistic race of primates, the drive to survive for men was to reproduce and pass on his bloodline. For females, it was to literally survive as long as they could because females lack the strength, speed, spatial awareness, sense of direction, construction, and hunting capabilities to survive in the wild. Human females need human males to protect them. In exchange for the male keeping her alive and protected in order to ensure her survival, the female carries out the male's drive to survive by having his offspring. Thus, the core need that all women seek in a male partner is strength; physical strength, emotional strength, and mental strength. The core trait men seek in women is loyalty. The man places the highest value on a female's loyalty to him because men are instinctually programmed to only protect their own offspring, and to view another male's bloodline as his enemy. Back then guys didn't have DNA tests to determine patronage, thus men had to be very confident his female partner would remain loyal to him.
    This applies to you because, whether we're aware of it or not, a female who is very promiscuous immediately loses value in the eyes of men. The instinctual side of us considers an unfaithful woman as someone who is not very bright, or is burdened by some type of mental or emotional issue since she refuses to play by the rules evolution instilled into us. On a primal level, a female who is this determined to refuse to demonstrate her loyalty & discipline as a sexual partner to a man is subconsciously seen by males as a female with a "death wish" since she can't survive on her own without male assistance. It's our inherited evolutionary instinct's version of a drowning person refusing the life vest and oxygen being offered to them.
    I just want to conclude by saying no amount of anti "slut shaming" campaigns that are launched to try to change this way of thinking will not work because attraction is instinctive, not cerebral.

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  • Honestly in my own opinion it's just the social ideals society has set in out minds about how to judge a person before meeting them so we can better safe gaurd ourselfs from being taken advantage. That and most societies have a huge issue with expecting how mental health should be addressed. Example men shouldn't cry. How ever crying is our way of being able to express exteremly emotional pains, it's health it's our natural way of coping also what's wrong with crying as a man. I would say bottling things up then exploding on someone or a group of people is worse.
    Lastly to be fair, man wemon who I am good friends with always seem to pick the bad boy type who will commonly slap them around and call them horrible things or treat them badly. Which makes completely no sence when they say they treat them well but when you examine the other person they are with they ussally are cheating on them.
    Example one of my good friends who just makes friend a with any women in hopes of a relationship to bloom will lie to my other friends about dating or if they had sex with a girl who they don't get along with or they will lie about themselfs being a drug dealer or user or both.

    Finally my position is bais a bit too because I grew up in an area with people whom where not kind to one another at all. The community viewed each individual as a thing or a tool not a person.

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  • There may be exceptions to this (I may even have one or two friends who fall into this catgory), but let's be honest, the vast majority of promiscuous people full stop (men as well as women) have 'issues'.

    They don't seem especially happy with other things that are going on in their lives, and they use this as a coping mechanism. The men seem more willing to admit to it, though.

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  • agree, but why do you feel the need to post this using 'anon'?

    obviously b/c you will attract the Tardis full of desperados on GAG. Which is countered by a simple click of the block button. but why not truly show confidence and empowerment by putting your name to the post?

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  • Promiscuous people have a lot of issues and scientific studies have shown that. I don't judge others for what they do but i might be more than a little off put in dating one

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  • Because they usually have it! Stop pretending that promiscuous women (or men too) are generally well centered persons because they don't! In a frankly majority! They are usually using promiscuity as a escapism to a life without meaning!

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  • Probably because the societal thinking of women is that women are more emotional and look for more stable relationships first and look for comfort first before amount.

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What Girls Said 6

  • I think it is mostly women who imagine all that. I don't know what your behaviour is, but most women probably feel the need to imagine that the moment this promiscuity is ''aimed'' at their partners from women other than them. It helps them replace hatred with a sort of compassion, I guess.

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  • Promiscuity is hated on because shamelessness in a woman breaks her free from the bullshit and ignorance boys try to keep us in.

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  • There's always an exception to the rule. Some girls just like the D

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  • The only people who care about this are found on GAG, in real life if you find such people they usually are full of it, and this quickest to either be slutty or fall for a slut.

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  • Ignorance. That’s all.

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  • primarily jealous people think of this

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