Should women be picky and have high standards too?




I think so. I'm not a feminist but everything seems to be about how to keep a man happy and attracted etc. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't a man stay on top of his fitness, hygiene, fashion etc and keep me sexually pleased assuming he has a big dick? Lol. For example I only date handsome black men who are athletic with abs and well endowed.. and I get judged for this (which honestly I don't give a fuck) double standards much? Some men prefer blondes, thin etc which I can give two fucks about because it's their preference and I have MY preference. The point is many men (often the broke, flawed, fat and weirdos) have high unrealistic expectations and standards with women. And they seem entitled and I don't agree with it. Kinda reminds me of white men who feels entitled to dating non white women because they're the majority.

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  • I say they have to be picky. Women deserve good guys that love them, not abusive assholes.

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  • You like what you like, ain’t nothing wrong with that.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • People should be entitled to having their own opinions without people giving a fuck but nowadays it’s impossible🙌🏽

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  • My standards are high which I guess is why I haven’t dated in a while. Which is good because I dodge the shitty guys.

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What Guys Said 42

  • everyone should be picky and everyone should have high standards within reason

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  • On the contrary. Where im from and from what i see is mostly about the woman, not the man. Its not wrong to be picky though. I just dont have very high standards. If a girl looks decent, isn't overweight, can make me laugh and is nice to be around, she is a potential date , to me at least.

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  • Because they are not picky at all, right? You say this after a recent tinder scam of an ugly six that scammed thousands of men and made them humiliate themselves and compete with each other for an average ugly chick and after she found "the one" she still said there was no chemistry. This is the mindset and behaviour of the average woman in the West today. You only want the best while you have little to offer and still are not satisfied.

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  • LMAO too funny... still going with that tired lie that men are the picky ones.

    The ugliest 300lb woman will reject dozens of average men in a month (saying she won't settle for a guy who is 20lbs overweight) and still cry about how shallow men are.

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  • Women are naturally picky and have higher standards because they can afford to do so earlier in their life. I don't think it's wrong to expect things, or want better, but it isn't double standards. You're basing it on what you know and not the unknown. Also there's some projecting. To each their own though.

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  • Most women aren't willing to settle for a guy under six foot tall. Those make less than 20% of the US male population. Wouldn't you call that high standards?

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  • in most western cultures, women are the "keeper of the keys" when it comes to relationships. it's completely up to them who/when/why/where. any gal that doesn't think she has control needs to rethink their situation.

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  • No. Women lust with their heart; that is, they prefer to have an ugly guy with a great personality over a hot guy with an “okay” personality.

    Men, on the other hand, lust with our genitals (and later with our hearts). We need a woman who looks good. Almost every guy I know won’t get attracted to a girl who doesn’t look good EVEN if her personality is golden.

    Women love to give sexually. Men love to give materialistically. And both love to give and receive affection too.

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  • Women ARE picky and have high standards, too. In addition to caring way more about things like how financially stable the guy is.

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  • Well, you begin your post with saying you aren't a feminist, and then you remark on your preference being your choice (which I agree with). If I as a white man wanted an Asian woman (not because of race specifically, though I will say that I prefer white and/or asian) I would say that that is perfectly fine. Moreover, in most places white people are a minority (like in my country, South Africa). I would say that BOTH PARTIES must keep eachother happy. Hope this helps

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What Girls Said 12

  • I can kinda see the point you are trying to make, but just realize that it’s not just men. Women may also have unrealistically high expectations. I think people in general tend to lose sight of what is important in life and focus instead on prospective partners’ height, weight, etc. instead of how compatible they are or how that person makes them feel.

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  • Definitely. We shouldn’t be settling for the first the best idiot who promises us the world and is actually just a player who tells the same story to every girl time and time again. We are human beings too. We are not less valuable than men :)

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  • Having a dad & 2 older brothers in the military, I was raised to have high standards. I'm glad. I also earned numerous accolades through my entire schooling and at work too. I guess that made me also earn the right to have high standards.

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  • I see your point. People are allowed to like what ever it is they want. It just seems men have more of a problem with high standards than we have with ours.
    I personally have very simple standards because they suite my personality. Other women have higher standards that honestly suit their personality. It doesn’t bother me as long as people provide what they expect.
    My fatass ex wanted a thick chick with curly hair and big lips. His lack of self awareness got him cancelled.

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  • No you have your standards and you won’t settle most people don’t like when a woman know what she wants. Most people got low standards. They want what is easy they don’t like a challenge. For me I can’t lay down with a woman That I don’t trust or I’m not I Into I got have trust.

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  • It's okay for both male and female to have Standards

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  • That’s just trying to build a man when going in depth with features. As long as the person is attractive and can please me in every area of my life. Height isn’t that important but if it came along I wouldn’t mind.

    In my opinion, high standards goes passed looks but “What can he do for me?” Is he consistent, honest, ambitious, intelligent and that’s when I’m picky because a guy can come along with the nice features but if he lack any of those? I’m onto the next. I met a guy who would use flirtatious lines and assumed he could woo me with every little line he mentioned.

    BORING ! That did not last any long.

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  • We do tho, lot’s of women are like this and there isn’t a problem with that.

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  • Women are already picky and have high standards.

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  • Didn't we already?

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