I read that being selfish is natural! It's called self preservation for survival purposes. That said, if you keep to yourself that's unfortunately okay too! You're under NO obligation to help anyone you don't want to. but it WOULD be nice to! I'm sure that you would want someone helping you in life or death situations!
@simplyaramdomgirlYou make it seem like a person should always think about and do for others and never themself no matter what it costs.
@MysteriousDarkness My opinion isn't about only doing for others, it's more about how only doing for yourself and your own interests affects you. Self-care isn't the same as being selfish. Being selfish is bad, and often enough leads to bad consequences. Self-care is about attending your own health and prioritizing your well being. That's all okay and well, but leading an egocentric life leads to misery. As much as people might want to tell you that they are fine isolated, one of the worst prison punishments are solitary confinement cells. Humans are not built to live on their own, without any type of human collaboration or contact.
On an ironic twist of fate about... where's the statistic?Ok, found a newspaper with it: 20% of CEOs are psychopaths, therefore, being selfish can get you to high places (especially in business).
@HumansExist Psychopathy is a mental illness, and it's not the majority of people. In addition to that, psychopaths are physically and mentally unable to feel empathy, or remorse/guilt. They physically don't feel the need to help, put yourself in someone else's shoes or anything else that could be considered selfless. Psychopaths are often pathological liars, unable to form meaningful bonds, and many other things. I don't think that having a high paying job matters much when you're struggling with such a thing. Even more if your personal life is a wreck, which for a lot of them, it is.
But what I mean, is the fact that you implied that everyone who is unable to be selfless will do badly in life.When, as stated above, that's not entirely true.
@HumansExist Well, it depends on what you consider as doing well in life. Is it having tons of money? Is it having true happiness? I think that if you're lacking in one of the main aspects of life, you're not going to do well. Let's say that you are financially successful. However, you're lacking in your personal aspect. In essence, you're lonely. You're surely going to be miserable and no amount of throwing money around, casual sex, or partying will fix it. In the end, you're sleeping in an empty bed, in an empty house. There comes a time where money doesn't cut it anymore. You may be well-off but that doesn't equal doing well in life. Not by what I define that concept to be as anyways. Everyone has their personal view and that's fine, but to me being a selfish egocentric narcissist isn't the way to live life. Life is so much better in the company of those you love. If you only do things if they work in your favor or if they're beneficial to you, you will find that eventually people become hostile and resistant to the idea of having you around. www.psychologytoday.com/.../good-neutral-and-bad-selfishness for further reference.
"Self-care isn't the same as being selfish" Wow I didn't know that! If that is true then perhaps you're right! Are you a psychology major or something? You seem to know a lot about ethics and morality as well as human psychology and their behaviors. That's really cool!
@TenderFantasy I kind of wish, but no. I haven't studied psychology. Nevertheless it fascinates me, it's always been a secret passion of mine. I constantly research and study terms, illnesses and so on. It's very interesting to look into the human mind. Self-care is a type of selfishness, however, the good kind. I recommend you read the article I linked above. Even though it's kinda long, it's very insightful.
You know, I was moved by your comments on the “Is selfishness immoral” question! You are intelligent! However, keep in mind that your idea of success and happiness isn’t the same as everyones. I wish there were more people that thought the way you do BUT…1. Money is a necessary evil. You cannot avoid needing it especially in a materialistic society! And unfortunately, I don’t see it changing anytime soon (that rule of lfe!).2. You cannot control other people’s thoughts and actions. You can only control yours.I learned this a while back (and KEPT learning it) until it stuck.. Not trying to preach :) , just trying to be helpful. -SV
@TenderFantasy I know that and thank you! I was just sharing a point of view I didn't feel was being shared. I think that an important balance between financial security, personal happiness, career success, and goal achievement, is essential to human happiness. If one of those aspects is compromised there will always have this lacking feeling. The "something's missing" we often find people complaining about. However, I know not many people see it as I do. I also know that our materialistic society has made people think, that all they needed to be happy, is enormous piles of money. Regardless, that is not true. Studies show that after gaining a $75,000 yearly income, happiness does not increase. It reaches a plateau that isn't altered no matter how much more money you make. That's why I said although money is important it isn't THE most important. Which is something a lot of people fail to see. However thanks for your kind words! Much appreciated!
@simplyarandomgirl Yeaaaaah, see, about this part:"it's not healthy to only care about yourself. That's how you isolate yourself and become ostracized."I agree with you 100%!!! (That that is how its supposed to work...)But in my experience, you can get just as isolated and ostracised caring only about others... and that Catch-22 has made me suicidal, and made me not trust any of you.
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@TenderFantasy love this.
But you can imagine how bad things might get if all parents acted selfishly and never helped their children in any way, or even bother to feed them or provide for them or simply abandoned them, as an extreme example.
and basic necessities like food, shelter, etc.. Just not illegally