Do you have trust issues?

[Alyssa11]

Yes I do. For two reasons.


Growing up I was around very toxic family members - not my immediate family because my parents were and still are amazing. I grew up around toxic family members that constantly attacked me as a child physically, mentally etc. It was terrible and although I love my parents, to some degree I hold some resentment because they didn’t do enough to protect me and isolate me from that environment. I grew up feeling like everyone was a bad person and they just wanted to hurt me. Like for some reason, I was cursed and not worthy of being loved and that there was something wrong with me.


I got into my first for real serious relationship at 22, and that’s because I always pushed guys away due to my fear. I decided to bite the bullet and give this guy a chance because he fought a lot to be with me and to get me to trust him. He promised he’d take care of me and be my everything — a boyfriend, a husband, a best friend, even a brother (weird I know but he knew about my family). He cheated on me throughout our entire relationship and although I forgave him the first time I found out (after a lot of fights) he still cheated on me.


Today I don’t know where I emotionally stand but I’m allowing my intuition to guide me in everything that I do. I know I’m a good person and I feel that the only entity I can trust and depend on is God. If I don’t feel good around someone (most of the time this happens), I no longer invest my energy into them because my peace of mind is invaluable. I’m allowing God to guide me and show me that I’m a good person with a good heart and hopefully guide to people who can show me that I can trust him.


This was very deep lol but it feels good to have it out in the open.

[lilyanony1]

I have trust issues. I have only ever wanted to settle down but I wanted to settle with someone ambitious and in love kind caring towards me.
I met someone that talked the talk but in reality isn't particularly academic.
I respected him enough to understand the road would be tough, but I was there. But any additional money he spent on himself. Designer this designer that. Big car big whatever.
Great! But why are you showing off on me your partner?

I work a OK job. I am able to spend on the things I need and have money left over. But I don't actually want those lavish things.

That's the difference.

I've dated outside of this person. I had one very generous initially that after considering my job told me he wanted to pack in work because well I would exceed his earnings.

I also dated someone that treated me to a lot but he also tried to push me to stop working simply because he claimed to be rich enough. But he turned out to be a cheater and a liar...
What risk was I potentially taking?

People say to me that I pick rotten eggs but these men were all different but it turns out just wrong for me.

[Mewipaws]

Yeah I can't trust people especially in real life.

This happened in 2014-2015. A girl approached me during my school orientation, asking if we could be friends. This was the 1st time I had a female whom I can consider a friend. Girls avoided me cause of my face. Things went well, I helped her with her school work most of the time and she helped me from time to time. I thought the friendship is going well.

In 2015, things went 180 when she suddenly lashed out at me at a public bus stop outside our school, ranting on how I sabotaged her grades in the 1st year, how I keep sticking with her in school and constantly relying on her. I only asked her a question on one of the subjects that I dont understand. Friendship ended because she refused to talk to me when I tried to reach out to her and ask her what happened. Group projects were a disaster because I was grouped with her for 3 times and she refused to accept any of my contributions for the projects, asking someone else to talk to me on her behalf and marking me down on purpose. I felt betrayed because I see her as a very close friend and she did this.

It was at this stage where I felt I cannot trust anyone to help me. I have to do things by myself whether if it kills me or not. Till now, I have not asked for help from any of my classmates and I avoid building relationship with people in general.

P. S: I didn't like her like that but more of a friend and I respected her due to her family situation.

[BenArcher80]

When an SO does not talk openly to you or answer your questions. If you ever have a silent treatment or they do not wish to talk... when you want to talk and they have no interest in talking to you... When they come home late and don't give a reason...
These are where I have trust issues because I am open and honest 100% transparent and I expect the same. So if the communication stops, I know something's up.

[SunnyJp]

It started in high school all the way up to university. I had few crushes and I decided for each one to confess. Some of them looked at me with a disgusted face, others they laughed in front of my face and last ones were the worst. This 2 guys got so ‘interested’ in my life to the point they would take me out for lunch. (These 2 stories happened in 2 different situations but same plot) Eventually, they were attracted for my best friends. People say I’m beautiful and have a funny personality. But I honestly changed. I don’t care about others’ feelings anymore.
Even if someone is serious, I’d never trust him.
I am pretty fucked up 😊

[Hypnos0929]

Yes.
First girl I ever loved ended up keeping me on a rope for fun. She knew I cared, sent me nudes, sexted me whenever she felt the need to scratch an itch, and used me as an emotional pillow for over a year then ghosted, blocked and threw me away when I needed emotional support the most (I had just moved to an entirely different city, had no friends, my brother was being hit with a felony charge for "helping" shoot a UPS driver in the hand, and my mother and I were fighting more, very briefly we almost became physical after she went out of her way to compare me to my abusive father, as I got into my later teens).
It's hard to trust someone when the only person you ever believed in tells you that you're nothing.
The idea of trusting anyone fully fills me with paranoia and anxiety. It makes me sick.

[Cherokeehp]

No not really. The entire concept of trust means taking the risk of someone hurting you. Trust is a gamble, and for me forming a strong connections with people and experiencing amazing stuff is usually worth the gamble. I’ve definitely made some bad gambles before. People have betrayed me and hurt me, but I’ve also gotten to experience some amazing shit.

[Kashelybee]

Yes I have trust issues. The cause is being cheated on before, being treated unloyal, hearing my mom and sister constantly say that all men cheat, hearing my sister say that my man just likes tall women, hearing my mom say that my man was texting over to the side after I told her that something she said was rude. Oh tons of things. I pray everyday that I can get and afford my own home soon.

[AriaSkullz]

Yes i have trust issues cause from a young age i watched how people could fuck others over, blood or not it doesn't matter what you said. You don't even gatta do anything cause whether people even realise it, in the end it's all about them, people only think about what benifits them. Promises are brocken as if they were never made and people lie straight to your face.

[Anonymous]

Yes i have trust issues
And thanks to that, i always was right to not trust them.

I feelt warning signs to not trust them.

Having trust issues against guys that tell me they love me, was the right thing to do. It made me more careful.
I have friends, but at the same time i feel lonely as if i don't have friends, because i can't trust them enough.

[FictionalCharacter]

Yes.

By my:

-parents
-ex friends
-people
-guys

I've dealt with manipulation, backstabbed, disrespected, and abandonment.

[Elsa143]

Yes because most people LIE and pretend to be someone else. I am the alien species who was open and honest like a pure child. But I stopped doing that now.

[lanadelrey25]

Yup, My dad and both grandfathers cheated on their spouses, my family. I trusted them, especially my dad and never could've imagined they had it in them to do that, but they did. People can deceive you.

[Hannah_le]

Yeah I do but cuz my parents , old fake immature friends , and past relationships I mean it was nth serious but like it was very manipulative n toxic then it should’ve been .

[sheikalana]

Used to have trust issues when I was younger, immature and insecure. Nowadays I don't even think about it unless my partner gives me a reason to feel insecure.

[jshm2]

No. Only people with mental issues have trust issues.

[DizzyDesii]

I trust easily but I also will drop you quick ad if you break it

[electromagnetic]

I don’t really have trust issues. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt until I’ve proven myself wrong.

[OddBeMe]

Definitely. I actually don’t trust anyone to perform the duties I ask of them. And I always suspect they’ll screw me over in the end.

I may be suffering from paranoia and bipolar depression, but ah well...

[courtney06]

Yes. History of abandonment in various ways. Trigger would be too much to list.

[pingiluv]

I have tons of trust issues, mostly from childhood trauma

[AliceTheNguyener]

Yes I still do have trust issues to some degree. It was my ex-friends and ex-boyfriend.

[SlightlyEccentric]

Yeah I do. Been screwed over and lied to too many times.

[TeeBar]

No, I choose my friends and acquaintances quite carefully.

[pigoat]

No one did shit to me bro

It was all the relationships around me that fucked people up for me

[CoolKatie]

Yep fake nice women and fake friends. Ex boyfriend . Cheater.

[JesterRose]

Im a capricorn, thats kinda our thing. I trust next to no one.

[Tyrese101]

Yeah, I always think everyone just wants to pretty much obliterate me.

[AFellowWeeb]

A lot, i never trust any person, and i allways assume that even closer people will betray me

[vee31]

I m not even trust myself

[turkey0]

Yeah I don't trust men

[Prettygurl12]

Trust but verify.

[Sofia123sofia]

I do have because of my parents and my ex.

[cth96190]

I have learned to trust nobody.

[JackofSpades]

I think so.

No fluffing idea.

[Eliiiiii]

Yep.
Dms 👀

[EaterPeter]

May be. May be relationship baggage.

[AnthonyJ01]

Definitely yes. Caused by my now ex.

[Hangry22]

Probably. Not sure

[IveGotNoName]

Yes.

[JoyGirl]

Yes, I do.

[Anonymous]

Terrible experiences with women.

[michael1469]

Sure do...

[Anonymous]

My parents