Great answer, yet so sad. I think humans are happiest when they can share their lives with others, it's important to our health. I hope you don't give up on people, and that someday you find your "tribe". It's a self-perpetuating isolation, what you describe. To be lonely, and because of it, isolate yourself. Which of course makes for more loneliness. What would a group look like that you would fit into? What is so hard to understand about you?
I'm an introvert & people always expect me (actually force me) to talk. I'm not a party animal, I'm more like a girl who likes to stay at home, read books, do sketching or painting & lay in bed with my cats. People always try to drag me into parties, perform on stage & it's literally humiliating. They think introversion is some kind of sickness & they try to cure it. They say "stop overthinking" like there's a on/off button.I don't get along with extroverts. They're very bad listeners, they do listen but the don't understand. There were some introverts in my class but they all are "go with the flow" kind of people. Now I have only one friend, he's an abivert. Many times I told him that he don't have to stay & suffer just because I don't have anyone. But he stayed, he listened, understood, gave advice to solve my problems & sat down to overthink with me. I forget loneliness/depression whenever he's with me.Well, now he got a job & we haven't spent much time together since the beginning of pandemic, he calls sometimes, takes all day to text back & I started to feel lonely again.
Maybe you can network with other parents who also want a "date night"? They sit for you some night, then you sit for them in exchange. That way it doesn't cost you financially, and you are just siting one more mini some night but it would be both you and your hubs sharing the work.
That is a good idea :)
my mom did it with other single moms. Other benefits you start to grow network and also your child has play date friends.
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Hey, in a way life is it's own reward. I've been sad at times I know what it feels like. As far as the question and lonliness is concerned a wise man once said, "Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.". You can always message this stranger and we can talk about things.. whatever you wanna talk about. don't make an irrational decision in bad mood, learn to rest a little and let the bad feelings dissolve out. Here's a good video to watch https://youtu.be/UjEngEpiJKoAnd another one : https://youtu.be/SUelbSa-OkALater
You mean finance options and stocks?On a serious note, i think I'd feel alone even when I'm around people and in a way I already do. It's just the sensation of being completely lone on a ball hurdling through space, it's a little hard to describe. Also, would you wanna clarify what you mean by options? As a wise man once said, "Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.".
Yea i meant options in terms of dating. As for your quote, that makes sense. There is a sense of loneliness when one is misunderstood or lacks common similarities to others. Feeling lonely in relationships is really the only perk of being single. I fully disagree with the opposites attract. They do not work in the long run
As to the "options" in terms of dating, isn't that a bit of a catch 22 though, the people you care for so much because they were great you wouldn't wanna let them wait by "taking your time in a sense"? If I found someone super super amazing I'd be scared as to what if I lose them or I'd really want to be around them no?
By options, i mean that everyone has at least one person in the world attracted to you. Regardless of if you like that option or not, its still an option. So no one should ever feel lonely knowing they have options. They shouldn't be desperate and lower their standards either. But still, its an option.
You thought everyone has options @DizzyDesii?
@Slim57 everyone has options. You may not be attracted to em but its still an option
I don't even have that right now tho
@Slim57 some people dont realize when they have options. But you always have an option
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Hey.. , could I get the link to the picture in your profile picture?
I'm honestly not sure where it came from. I think from an art group called Other Perspectives.
It's a very lonely themed drawing :)