Should I accept my boyfriend's money?

I have a situation that just seems strange to me. So I've been slumming big time. I just moved into my own place and just like that, work decides to cut hours and I'm totally broke. Now my boyfriend makes plenty and lives at home, so he will take me out and he bought me gas a couple weeks ago when I drove out to see him, and that's OK with me.

But I just told him I couldn't see him Thursday cause I have plans to get coffee with this guy Nick I haven't hung out with in a while. "Not that I'll get coffee, obviously, but I assume we'll go to a place at which you can buy coffee," I said.

And he says we'll all go together so I can buy you coffee.

I say no, that'd be weird.

He says, Do I not know him?

No, I say.

He says, well I'd love to meet him so you can have coffee. If he's your friend, I'm sure he's a nice guy.

I say, well it would be weird cause I haven't hung out with him in forever. Plus the guy was trying to date me at the same time you were, way back when. He'd prob feel awkward.

He says, well I'll give you a 5.

Five what? I say.

Dollars, so y'all can have coffee.

I say no, you will not give me $5. It's one thing when we're on a date, but I don't need an allowance.

Then I'll go with you! says he. I don't wanna keep you from your friends.

Sorry it's so long, but this whole convo is ringing strange to me. Is he being strange? And am I right to be a little offended that he wants to give me money? I feel like he's my pimp or my 50s husband or something. Is he just trying desperately to be good to me? I guess I would just like impressions from outsiders. Ask if you need clarification on anything.

Sigh. I dunno. Reading back over it, I think he must just be trying to find an arrangement that will make me happy.


Most Helpful Girl

  • hellloo! he's jealous! he offered you a 5 to be insulting. sort of like ("here, I'll give you more money because that's all I'm good for to you") He wants to meet this guy so he knows he's not flirting with you, it is strange that you had no reason other than "he liked me back in the day so I don't want things to be awkward". Do you not care about your bf's feelings? Do you ecpect him to say "Oh that's understandable, I wouldn't want to be the awkward **** block for him, have a great time honey." Wheather this guy is trying to get back with you are not is not the point, it's strange that you want to meet up with him and won't let your boyfriend come along, what are you hiding?

    • lol Well I'm not hiding anything... I just know the guy and he's the shy, awkward type. I would rather just not hang out with him than make him feel uncomfortable.

    • but from you bf's perspective it looks like you have something to hide, him being an awkward person really isn't an excuse for your boyfriend not to meet him, your boyfriend should mean enough to you to be willing to suffer through an awkward moment. At least ask the guy you are meeting if he would feel confortable if you're boyfriend came along. If not, then wouldn't that guy seem like he's got questionable motives for "catching up" with you.

    • I agree with zenqueen!

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What Guys Said 2

  • if the guy loves you it's all for one and one for all. If he trusts you he would "let". (lack of a better phrase) go, and insist you take some money so you'll be covered. Inviting himself is wrong IMHO - it's your place to extend the invitation. Read my question posted and tell me how you would react as it's similar but on a much bigger level

  • Your lucky to have a guy like that , I wouldn't do that sh*t for a girl .


What Girls Said 2

  • Girl, are you freakin serious right now? I totally agree with ZenQueen on everything she said. The world doesn't revolve around you. Your boyfriend is being a good boyfriend. You are totally out of line by going on a date with some other dude. My boyfriend would have knocked me out and complains all the time how he has to pay for everything. consider yourself luckly..shheechh

    • It wasn't a date. It was a very shy, nerdy friend who clams up around people he doesn't know. And if you're dating a guy who would knock you out, I think you've got bigger issues to deal with than this, hun.

    • Really? Thanks 4 the news flash sweetie. I was attempting 2 point out how not everyone has a kind and considerate boyfriend and that you should be more appreciative to him. Dang, you need 2 get humble girlie.

  • It seems like he's just trying to help you out.. you're putting too much into it.