How can your boyfriend make you happy on 14. th February?
Most Helpful Girl
My boyfriend makes me happy every day of the year so valentine’s is nothing out of the ordinary 😂2
Most Helpful Guy
My girlfriend says she actually prefers to avoid the sappy and cliche stuff like a dozen red roses and a romantic restaurant. She dislikes sweet food in general, so no chocolates. She told me that she likes to go shopping with her guy, buy some food, make a surf and turf meal together, cheese, wine, and have a romantic dinner at home.
This seems to go against what I assume should be the norm as a guy. I suppose it makes sense though. The holiday seems to be geared towards expectations being put on the man in the relationship to woo his woman, shower her with romantic overtures, gifts, setting the mood, and so on, while it really should be about both partners creating the moment together and for each other.
In other words, why should it be so one-sided? I get that it feels nice to be thought of, especially during those special moments. Stories of guys going the extra mile during Valentine's Day, Anniversaries, when proposing for marriage, and so on are what put a lot of pressure on men to achieve a standard that women so often brag about when it comes to that special man in their lives. It feeds into the pressure put on men to perform and can be a source of insecurity.
In my opinion, all loving gestures should come from the heart and there should be no pressure to meet some sort of set standard. As soon as you detach from it, try to appease someone, to think you /have/ to do something to be approved, then it loses its authenticity and meaning.
Yes, be thoughtful, know what touches your woman's heart but also be genuine in your expression.
(Also this isn't a gendered thing. Same goes for women who are expected to dress in lingerie and do sexual favors. These "gifts" should be genuine and not expected.)1