If my boyfriend that I started dating two weeks ago doesn’t give me anything for valentine’s day today does that mean that he doesn’t like me?

Question

I don’t know if i should expect anything we just started dating

Updates:

1 y

he says that he has band rehearsal today still should he try?

1 y

He just texted me happy valentine’s day!

Answer 1

Massageman

Influencer

I don't think that if he doesn't get some gift that- by definition- he doesn't like you.
He did take a break from rehearsal to email you. I almost forgot to email my wife and we've been married over 40 years- but I still like her.

After a few weeks, a card would be appropriate, but SO many people your age just don't deal with "hard copy" anything any more! Candy or flowers would be a really nice gesture, but I wouldn't expect it after only two weeks. I know- I know-some will say - - "But it's Valentine's Day- you're supPOSed to give flowers/candy/whatever". If he does - great: so much the nicer. But if he does not give a "gifty-gift", I don't think it automatically means that he doesn't like you!

Answer 2

Ripper_E

Guru

Not necessarily. Valentine's Day doesn't mean anything. Unless you made it clear to him that you want or expect something that day then you should not expect anything. Guys tend to do things on Valentine's Day for girls because they believe they care about it, and they often do. That doesn't mean guys care about Valentine's Day.

Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
so if he doesn't do anything that means that he doesn't like me or care about me?
Ripper_E

1 y
No, it may just mean he doesn't care about Valentine's Day. That day has nothing to do with showing people that you like them or care.

Answer 3

Sweetnessxoxo

so if he doesn't do anything that means that he doesn't like me or care about me?

Answer 4

Ripper_E

No, it may just mean he doesn't care about Valentine's Day. That day has nothing to do with showing people that you like them or care.

Answer 5

Anonymous

No. It means that you are a person with high expectations.
Why are you hurrying so much?
If you keep your expectations high, you will be disappointed in life. In all matters, not only in love.

why are you hurrying so much?

Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
because my parents said that he should get me something and i think he's losing interest
Opinion Owner

1 y
I see. He's your boyfriend, not your parents. The events between you are special for both of you.
The reason why he lost interest in you may be your attachment to your parents.
Therefore your relationship isn't for two people, but it looks like a four person relationship with your parents.

Answer 6

Sweetnessxoxo

because my parents said that he should get me something and i think he's losing interest

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

I see. He's your boyfriend, not your parents. The events between you are special for both of you.
The reason why he lost interest in you may be your attachment to your parents.
Therefore your relationship isn't for two people, but it looks like a four person relationship with your parents.

Answer 8

Pink2000

Influencer

Well it’s too soon... I wouldn’t expect anything anyways.

Pink2000

1 y
Y’all haven’t been together no time.. did you get him something?
Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
I haven't been able to see him today he has work and then band rehearsal
Pink2000

1 y
That’s fine
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Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
I guess it makes sense if he didn't give me anything but he should at least text me right?

Answer 9

Pink2000

Y’all haven’t been together no time.. did you get him something?

Answer 10

Sweetnessxoxo

I haven't been able to see him today he has work and then band rehearsal

Answer 11

Pink2000

That’s fine

Answer 12

Sweetnessxoxo

I guess it makes sense if he didn't give me anything but he should at least text me right?

Answer 13

ChronicThinker

Influencer

It means he's 18 and he's too poor to give you fuck all.

Answer 14

sejla

Influencer

Card would have been nice.

sejla

1 y
Just see how it goes from now on. Valentines day is over rated. Every day treatment is a better sign.

Answer 15

sejla

Just see how it goes from now on. Valentines day is over rated. Every day treatment is a better sign.

Answer 16

ZackBan

Yoda

He cares = he gets something (small, cheap, meaningful is ok)

He doesn't care = he has band rehearsal don't bother texting on today he'll deal with you when it suits his time.

Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
He just texted me happy valentine’s day that’s all
ZackBan

1 y
Not enough. A friend of mine just texted me the same thing and we're not even close to dating.
A boyfriend is required to do much more. See you in person at the very least if he's not gonna get you anything.
Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
He worked today and is in band practice

Answer 17

Sweetnessxoxo

He just texted me happy valentine’s day that’s all

Answer 18

ZackBan

Not enough. A friend of mine just texted me the same thing and we're not even close to dating.
A boyfriend is required to do much more. See you in person at the very least if he's not gonna get you anything.

Answer 19

Sweetnessxoxo

He worked today and is in band practice

Answer 20

ShortCircuit

Guru

If it were me, I'd get her *something* as a gesture, like a card, or candy/chocolate. But I would be of the mind that because we had only been dating 2 weeks, it'd be outta place to get anything too expensive.

Answer 21

COMMODOREII

Master

I would have gotten at least a card and rose. But I've always been the romantic at heart. Hopefully you do get something? Did you get him anything?

Sweetnessxoxo

1 y
I won't even get to see him today
COMMODOREII

1 y
Awww 😧*hugs*

Answer 22

Sweetnessxoxo

I won't even get to see him today

Answer 23

COMMODOREII

Awww 😧*hugs*

Answer 24

ohshee

Guru

Well it means a lot of things but it will show u a lot of things to it's not about getting a gift,, it's about him making it your day to say thank you for being in his life

Answer 25

BlessedDaddy

Xper 5

You already did set up expectations so if he doesn't get you something. It doesn't matter if he truly likes you or not, you have already made up your mind.

Answer 26

bannacookies

Yoda

I'd be surprised if he didn't. Heck, I've got people who are just friends who mention it to me, and so forth, so you'd think someone would expect their boyfriend or girlfriend to say at least something.

Answer 27

SALIM28

Xper 6

It doesn't neccesarily mean he doesn't like u
BUUUUT it means he doesn't care
🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Answer 28

WhiteShoulder

Guru

As long as he wishes you Happy Valentine's Day and sends you lots of kisses, that's enough.

WhiteShoulder

1 y
Yes!!! He should still do something romantic. Even if it's just a sweet heartfelt text. He needs to make u as much of a priority as his daughter and band practice.

Answer 29

WhiteShoulder

Yes!!! He should still do something romantic. Even if it's just a sweet heartfelt text. He needs to make u as much of a priority as his daughter and band practice.

Answer 30

Fromdusktilldawn

Yoda

I know many people who are in a relationship but don't care about Valentine's because it's just business and they are smart enough not to fall in that trap