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"Among the Spaniards, the women after the birth of fa child must tend their husbands, putting them to bed instead of going themselves... The husband is fed and pampered by his wife, and receives his neighbor's compliments and praise for his hard work."

"The custom is that... as soon as a woman has given birth, she gets up from the bed... Her husband gets into the bed and keeps the infant that is born with him... All the friends and relations come to see him and bring him great joy and entertainment... while the wife does all the duty of the house and waits on her lord[/husband], taking him food and drink...

In northern Brazil...[the husband] gets into the bed and the wife returns to work as usual; then all the people of the village come to see and visit him lying in his bed, consoling him for the trouble and pain he had in producing this child."

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1525/eth.1973.1.1.02a00030/pdf

"Hindus show particular attention to the man, not to the woman, when a child is born... This is a variety of the worldwide custom of 'couvade'... He eats as good food as he can afford, and his wife is expected to go about her work immediately after delivery, as if nothing had happened...

Among the Koravars... as soon as the pains of delivery come upon a pregnant woman, she is taken to an outlying shed, and left alone to live or die... No help is given to her for 28 days... Pollution from birth is held to be worse than that from death... When the child is born... it is given to the father... who has everything needful brought to him...

One of the men examined by me explained that the man's life was more valuable than that of the woman, and that the husband, being a more important factor in the birth of the child than the wife, deserves to be better looked after."

I can't say I disagree. I think this would be the ideal arrangement after birth. I think the only "people" (if you can call them that) who'd disagree are the mysandrist feminists.