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Me and my boyfriend of 7 years have been going at it a lot lately, mostly about him talking to other females. He is very flirtatious and will give or take a phone number from anyone. He also lies a lot. So i kicked him out everyday for a month I finally drew the line and told him by Friday he had to leave. He left but didn't take anything. He came over almost every day to see our kids and take a bath then I started letting him sleep over basically he never left! My hopes of breaking up and him leaving were for him to appreciate me and realize how important our family is to him. I started to see improvement he started spending more time with me and our kids and he would call me and answered the phone when I would call he'd even text me back. He would tell me daily how much he loved me and wanted to make things work and that he wanted to come home permanently I told him he had to stay consistent and keep showing me he wanted the relationship he did here and there but he never really gave it his all this has been going on for 3 weeks so a few days ago I find a few hair strands in his beard I question him and he tells me if he were doing anything with anyone besides me he would tell me so me being skeptical I check his online phone records and confront him I even had a conversation with the female in front of him basically he and she have been having a fling for a month and they have had unprotected sex at least once I have also have had unprotected sex with him 4 days before I found out and he has not been in contact with her and she has contacted me to apologize because he told her he had no contact with me at all he swears he will be a better man but he has promised in the past to change his cheating lying ways he's even volunteered to go to counseling and church so he can be a better spouse and father I don't know what to think I love him so much but having unprotected sex is so low down and dirty especially when you don't know the person from a hole in the wall

My "bf" was suppose to take me on the most romantic weekend for my birthday and he literally vanished. He didn't respond to my text messages or calls. I actually thought he died or something terrible happened to him. I reached out to his friend asking where the hell my "bf" went. His friend tells me that he's not speaking to me because last time he dropped me off at my house, he stopped at a local store for something and he swears he heard two guys talking about sexual acts they did with ME. He says one of the guys were bragging about how far they got with me. But he's not even sure what he heard or who they were talking about.

Let me tell you why this makes me mad. First off, EVERYBODY GETS TALKED ABOUT AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIFE WHETHER THEY REALIZE IT OR NOT. Nobody is safe! Whether or not the rumor is true, I can't control what comes out of people's mouths!

2. IF my name was said, there is more than one person in this town with my name! I'm not the only person in the world with my name.

Third, he's gunna believe some guys he doesn't even know over trust? my "bf" lives in the next state, he doesn't know anybody in my town. So he's gunna believe someone he's never seen before in his whole life?

4th! GUYS LIE! Especially young guys! It's locker room talk! I am not a snobby person, I'm not full of myself, I don't think I'm better than anybody I swear! but hear me out.. I'm a 19 year old college freshman and a cheerleader and a girl. I'm not saying I'm more desirable than anybody else but... I get hit on weekly! ALL WOMEN DO! Do you know how many guys I've had to reject since I've been with my bf? I'm pretty sure guys hate rejection and would definitely tell their friends he did stuff with me regardless of me giving them the time of day.

5th He's thinking about breaking up with me over a rumor? WHO'S SIDE IS HE ON? HE SHOULD HAVE MY BACK! Think about it, IF ANYBODY SHOULD UPSET THAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT THEM... ITS ME!