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I was just curious about what kind of lifestyle wrt relationship (s) you'd most want to have over the course of your life. I've thought of 5 options.

1. +20 years. A lifelong monogamous relationship (to the right person obviously). This does not necessarily mean marriage or kids (though it can if you want it to). The initial excitement won't be there after 20 years obviously and you will have arguments that you will have to get past. But this provides the most amount of support and emotional connection to each other. If you get sick or injured, the other will stay with you (and you will have to do the same). You will be committed to making it work as will the other person. Both of you will want to make the other happy.

2. 5-15 years. You will have a very long term relationship but will separate after a while. I can only imagine people picking this because it'll allow them to raise kids and then leave each other for something else. This seems a weird option but it does happen a lot so I included it.

3. 6 mnths-2 years. Serial monogamy. You have relationships for that emotional high of love/infatuation. It won't be any kind of life partner though. If you move/become pregnant/have an accident, the other person won't stay with you. You will break up when serious issues arise or when the magic fades.

4. <2 months. Purely sex. No emotional connection or long term commitment/support. You get lots of sexual partners but no serious relationships and you will have to chase/seduce every partner. If you lose money or become less attractive, the others won't stick around. You get excitement and freedom but less stability.

5. No relationship at all. (There'll be a few who'll pick this).

Tl;dr: if you had to choose, what lifestyle would you most want to have wrt relationships. The more short term it is, the more excitement but less stability. The more long term it is, the more stability and support but your options will be restricted a little more.

I find it hard to form relationships and bonds with other human beings. As far as I've known I've been a lone wolf and I guess I was OK with that. Until this girl came into my life and changed the way I felt about a lot of things. I can honestly say I was in love. But eventually even she could not take my "shut off"ness and left. She's now with a guy who provides her stability emotionally and practically. I can't say I'm happy myself but if she's happy then... what can I do. I guess I'm just upset because now I know what I'm missing and I'm afraid I might never be able to feel that again. That's why I've been hung up on her for so long, trying to grab every opportunity just to get her attention. Is there any hope for me? How do I move on?

Been dating a girl for 8 years come March and we moved in together after the first year. we have a dog who now lives with me as we have been living apart for this past year. over the past couple years she has become asexual and in the 4 times we have seen each other this year only once did she want to fool around and the other time took some convincing the other times notta and gets mad when I try. I have a very high libido and this isn't cutting it. sh*tty thing to is that I can count on 2 hands the amount we fooled around total in the 2 previous years. I have been faithful but am finding it is getting harder and harder to resist other women and have recently decided to pursue someone I have liked for 7 years. needless to say I do want to end things and move on and just want to know how to do this and pursue this other woman who in all honestly is marriage material and would love to make that happen. (might be hanging out with her, her sis and the sisters husband in a few weeks to board... girlfriend won't be there... possibily to say things then?) most of my things are still at our place in which she resides (approx 16hr drive from me) and I only have the bare essentials here. I would like my stuff back and to keep the dog whom I adopted when she was working in the field (for those of you whom are unaware these are camp jobs typically on a 6w and 2w rotation). this other girl is the sister of one of her close friends who has had a bad run with men and I am hoping I can change that, give her some stability and in the end perhaps take her off the market and give her a solid a caring man to come home to everyday. I would be the luckiest guy ever if I could make this happen. best part is her sis (friends with my gf) loves me and her husband and I get along very well... like brothers that don't fight. I know Xmas is around the corner and I don't want to break it off then cause I think that is a pretty sh*ty time of year to get dumped, although we did break up about 5 years ago for 2 weeks and she dumped me over Facebook... so I want to be nicer about it than she was then... after xmas?! saw her a few weeks ago and the most fun I had that whole week was when I was near the girl I am interested in. that's what my thoughts are... imput is greatly appreciated.