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Like hand holding, hugging, light pecks, etc?

Friendly visit with friend that I’ve known since 2010.. he was in town and he invited me to the lake and said to bring my bikini. It was warm and he had sunscreen so he offered to spray some on my back.. and give me a massage.
He started at my neck.. down my back.. to my legs.. when he sprayed lotion near my inner thigh I mentioned that it tickled when he heard me giggle so he sprayed me two more times. I’d also put on some extra weight and I joked that most of it had went to my butt.
He said I can see that and patted me on the butt a couple times.
We were briefly intimate in 2016 before he moved away. He’d been weird about other guys being nice to me before he moved and then even after.. up until recently.
This is the first time he’s engaged in any form of PDA so trying to figure out how I should take this.. flirt?
Friendly gesture? He dropped me off at home he offered to give me a hug and put his arms around my lower back.. any opinions helpful 🙂

Spent time at lake with longtime male friend recently.. previous history of intimacy but not for a few years. After we got settled.. he offered to give me a massage.. (I was in a bikini.. trip was his idea).. he’d rubbed my neck.. shoulders.. entire back and legs. I’d recently put on some weight and I joked that it went to my butt and he said I could tell and smacked it a couple times. Before he’d only ever been like that in private.. so since this was public.. was curious if this sign of pda.. was intended to be flirty.. territorial.. or something else? We went in the water for a little bit and he did splash me a couple times. Just curious as being public along this line is new for him. Being that it’s been awhile since we’ve been intimate.. along with a history of being weird when other guys were nice to me during the time we were intimate and since then.. wanting to make sure I didn’t misread this visit.. as it came across at the very least as flirty.. opinions appreciated..

The concept of love languages was coined by Gary Chapman. He suggested that there are 5 primary love languages that people use to communicate their love for a partner/makes them feel loved. It has been suggested that knowing your and your partner's primary languages can really help you communicate your feelings and make each other feel loved.

Here's a link to the website if you are interested, there is also a quiz you can take to find out your love language if you aren't sure :) https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Quick clarification on the love languages:
- Words of Affirmation (hearing your partner tell you they are proud of you, that they value you, that they understand that respect you, or vice versa)
- Acts of Service (your partner doing things for you to help you feel less stressed, more happy, or vice versa)
- Recieving gifts (Giving/recieving gifts that show listening skills and true understanding of what makes that person happy)
- Quality time (Spending time doing something or even just chilling together makes you extremely happy)
- Physical touch (being affectionate, intimate, or engaging in PDA)