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My best friend used to be with this guy not long ago who would be extremely jealous and sulky even when she talked to other guys. EVERY day, (towards the end), i shit you not, she'd message me about a new fight or problem he had with her. He once even prevented her meeting her PURELY-a-male-friend because he just didn't like how he wanted to meet up with her despite the travelling inconvenience for him.
Basically he's fairly controlling.
And any time they'd fight he'd make her feel guilty about the problem even if that time it was his fault and not hers.

My friend has been in physically abusive relationships before and even then justified them, so this guy seems like a "good guy" to her, which is scary. Just cause he doesn't hit her, he's automatically a "nice guy".

Once she broke up with him because he was overly-protective and clingy, and she needed some space, but somehow he made the situation out to be like "oh baby ill wait for you, come back to me" & "im trying to give you space but I don't know how" as if she was expected to go back to him after some space. When she kissed someone while she was single, he punched the guy she kissed and swore at her and acted like she cheated even though they were broken up. It was like in his mind, he made it out to be that he still owned her.
Her being the easily influenced girl she is, she apologised to him and he kept raging and said "fuck you" to her and everything.
And they broke up finally afterwards and after he kept coming back to her and talking to her and then messaging her how immature she was.
But now she went back to him and apologised. She genuinely thinks she was wrong even though she was single when kissing the other guy, because thats what the ex made her feel. And she says she likes him again now so she'll most likely get back with him.
Help.. whaat tf am i supposed to do?
This is an unhealthy relationship.

LONG STORY SHORT: I’m in an abusive relationship his ex beats up any girl he tries to talk to we met at work. We started off as hook up. Me to get away from my abuser ( feel stuck) him I guess he felt lonely. He didn’t care at first and then we would start arguing like couples do and he’d be mean id be mean however we never stopped talking. We work together by the way. So he’d get drunk tell me he wanted me to be his id say I wanted him to be mine but when brought up sober he’d deny deny deny. So I’d deny but I secretly had feelings for him. So we went out downtown and he called me baby in front of a group of guys because they were looking at me. I finally the next day asked about why he called me that and he denied denied and then I asked him again during text and told him to chill out about being so defensive because I liked it which he replied with “ mhmmmhm” which he not replies like that when he has nothing to say but wants to say something. After this incident he starts to look scared of me acting nervous not looking me in the eye and kinda avoiding me but still trying to get my attention at the same time. So then I asked if he cared about my situation and he said “ why did u want me to care, cause I don’t” but I could tell he did. Next day he kept bringing up my abusive boyfriend and kept asking why haven’t I left yet. And what I’m waiting for. I then tell him I’d rather be with him which he turned around looked very shyly and said “ well your still with him so...” and tried to his whatever he was feeling ( he can’t express his emotions well we’ve talked about it) now he’s acting EXTREMELY ODD now and awkward and shy. Why is this?

I don’t need anyone to judge me and be mean. Me and this guy have been talking ( I’m in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to get out So please don’t judge) well we have cheated together ( I’m not proud but it helped me know I’m getting out relationship) he said he didn’t want to date obviously. And he doesn’t date. However he has an ex in the picture that he talks to like they are dating. Well honestly i was about to leave my boyfriend for this guy ( he seemed like he secretly wants me to anyway) we’ll all of a sudden he starts talking to his ex again. And had Thanksgiving with her. Me and him hook up and we are co coworkers and I know he likes me but now he won’t hook up with me anymore. I think because of his ex however he doesn’t have a problem with always trying to tell people about me and bragging about me and touching me. I’ll ask to hang out he will pretend he wants to but then when it comes down to it he makes excuses. He even said I needed to chill out because I’m overthinking it. But he’s acting funny. Yet will say he wants me and stuff it’s like he doesn’t want me to leave him alone yet won’t hook up ( and he said I give him the best head and sex ever) he says we are talking to so what does that even mean? My situation is messy af ik but I just don’t know what to do. Anytime we are at work he always tries to get my attention and always wants to touch meand talk so what gives why won’t he hang out with me anymore and he even claims he want to sowhy doesn’t he?

I don’t need anyone to judge me and be mean. Me and this guy have been talking ( I’m in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to get out So please don’t judge) well we have cheated together ( I’m not proud but it helped me know I’m getting out relationship) he said he didn’t want to date obviously. And he doesn’t date. However he has an ex in the picture that he talks to like they are dating. Well honestly i was about to leave my boyfriend for this guy ( he seemed like he secretly wants me to anyway) we’ll all of a sudden he starts talking to his ex again. And had Thanksgiving with her. Me and him hook up and we are co coworkers and I know he likes me but now he won’t hook up with me anymore. I think because of his ex however he doesn’t have a problem with always trying to tell people about me and bragging about me and touching me. I’ll ask to hang out he will pretend he wants to but then when it comes down to it he makes excuses. He even said I needed to chill out because I’m overthinking it. But he’s acting funny. Yet will say he wants me and stuff it’s like he doesn’t want me to leave him alone yet won’t hook up ( and he said I give him the best head and sex ever) he says we are talking to so what does that even mean? My situation is messy af ik but I just don’t know what to do. Anytime we are at work he always tries to get my attention and always wants to touch meand talk so what gives why won’t he hang out with me anymore and he even claims he want to sowhy doesn’t he?

I'm gathering more opinions on this topic for someone to help them! My words aren't doing the trick.. I need them to visually see other people's opinions! I want your total honesty on what you think about this situation.. Please!

The girl's opinion plus some background
info (this was sent to another friend first then screenshotted and sent to me- she knows I'm using this also!)
https://imgur.com/a/VUvZO

The guy's counteragument (screenshotted from the girl then sent directly to me.. The blue is the guy talking and the purple is the girl's response to what he said) https://imgur.com/a/NT9x9

Basically, the girl met the guy about a year ago and at the time he was dating this other chick.. Things went super bad and they broke up and the guy was super depressed every day and nearly killed himself more than once but the girl had developed a crush on him and decided to stick by him and help him out. Then they started dating and were all happy until the girl started to feel a bit used by the guy. The girl has actually gained about 6 pounds and is overeating from stress.
The main issue, from what I can tell, is that the guy is taking advantage of this girl's kindness and making her feel powerless.. Belittled. They've argued and each time she somehow always ends up as the guilty one due to him manipulating her and making her feel guilty and hypocritical etc.

An important note is that all of this is online!

Sorry for all the reading 😅 But please take the time! This is a pretty serious issue unfortunately :/

More info on emotional abuse here!
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-abuse-definitions-signs-symptoms-examples/

A good example picture for a more visual display!