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This is a statement from long ago, Jewish Bible. Do you agree with it?

That is, can you genuinely forgive someone without doing harm to them in return, or without giving it to your "god"?
I've asked another question about forgiveness and a lot of people indicated they'd have a hard time forgiving or won't. So I wondered if this feels true:)?

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful of things. But it is oh so not easy to come to grips with. Where does one draw the strength from to forgive? How does it feel to forgive, or not to forgive?

People can hurt each other easily, for selfish reasons and their own wounds. Like:
MotherF@#er raped you in college, and you lost 15 years of your life.
Your boss totally F'd you... on purpose (they do that)! You lose... job, retirement, house, maybe family.
The guy/girl you loved... they hurt you terribly, totally F'd your life! F'in hell man!
The Govt official screwed you bad and laughed about it on the news, and you lost your business! You went bankrupt!
In essence, these are all corruptions of power, selfishness, and lack of love! Ok!!!

Oh but that Universe... by twist of fate years later, you have power over their offspring! OOOOO
Maybe you are the Sargent in the Army commanding them, and you have to pick someone for the dangerous front position? Tempting..
Or you are the boss, and you can make this subordinate suffer! No consequences, at least earlth
Or you see them in a dangerous place... like trapped in a car on side of the road, ready to catch fire. They are gonna die, unless you interject to help call for help... else they die! Nobody would know though if you drive on...

Dig deep... how do you respond? You're options:

A) F! ck em over, that's life bi#ch! (Explain how this would feel). Is there a better way?
B) Ignore your feelings.
C) Forgive: Engage with them, explain what happened that they deeply hurt you, and that you will treat them the same as anyone else. Explain how you'd feel and where you get the strength.
D) Other

Hi y'all,

My dream girl and I broke up after dating for 3 years about 8 years ago. I... did not take it well. I reached out to her about from every different type of method you could think of. She had to block my phone, emails, facebook, insta, Skype, whatever. So what did I do? I MADE DUMMY ACCOUNTS TO KEEP CONTACTING HER!
I probably went on for 1.5 years doing this. Not frequently mind you, but probably about once a month I would reach out to her again, hoping she had forgiven me. Less and less frequently.

I haven't tried to talk to her in ages now, probably 4-6 years since my last attempt. And while I never made any physical attempt to contact her... never tried to see her in person... as I become more "woke" in the face of MeToo, I can't help but think that maybe.. I crossed a line. Maybe.. I scared her, made her feel unsafe, made her feel like she had a stalker.

In my head I believed that if I could just get her attention.. I could explain to her everything. All I wanted to do was talk! And I wanted that more than anything.

Lately I've been feeling bad about it, and I want to send her one last note apologizing for going crazy on her. Not to ask for forgiveness per say, I don't think she owes me that, but just to give her peace of mind that she never has to deal with me again.

I'm not in a bad place in life. I have a very loving girlfriend and I've dialed down my obsessive tenancies. I just want to right prior wrongs, but I recognize that maybe... saying nothing would let an old wound continue to heal.