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Shortened version: In college 5 years ago I dated this guy Rob. He broke up with me after 4 months of dating to have sex with his ex.

The last 4 years I dated Brad a completely new guy that I met randomly. I was very serious with him but things turned bad and I ended it with him back in September of last year. Rob came back into my life around that time saying he always wanted another chance with me. I gave in (he was a rebound I suppose you could say) I ended up hanging out with him twice where we had sex both times just like back in the college days he ended it with me again.

I confided in his friend Aric to help me through this since I was getting over my 4 year break up and this Rob mess at the same time. Well around March Aric and I started talking and it turned into more. We ended up liking each other a lot and now are in a relationship/dating. We have met each other's families etc. Things are going well. Only problem is he has been keeping this a secret from his friend Rob. They live an hour away from each other so rarely see each other in person and are both busy with work.

This weekend Rob will be in town and Aric plans to tell him straight up that he is dating me and wants Rob to hear it from him and not other people. He isn't really asking for permission but just wants to respectfully tell him man to man. Aric told me that he thinks it'll go fine and that Rob will just have to accept it.

Well guys/girls has anyone ever been in the situation? Guys, how would you feel if you were either of them?

My boyfriend and I started dating last summer. My bff was not too excited about us, so we kept us a secret, because we only had one week together before he moved six hours away. I thought it wasn't going to last. But we stayed in touch, and after six months we started to daydream about the future. I was moving to his city in the fall. The secret relationship was hard for us though, and when he came home two weeks ago we started dating in public, as the world believed we just met. My bff was cool with it. Problem is, he broke up with me last night. He said keeping him a secret had made him feel like a low prioroty, and accused me of putting my bff before him, since I wouldn't tell her. How do you tell someone after six months you've had a boyfriend? Our friendship would be over, but he doesen't understand this. He said it had killed almost all the feelings he had for me, at least made them a lot weaker than it was last summer, when he was very much in love with me.

Last week, we spent the night at our second house, ate some delicious food, talked, lied in the sun, listened to music and had a great time. He mentioned this when he broke up and said he was surprised over how good it was. It was like we had no problems at all, it was like last summer.

My question is, are we completely over? He said he had been thinking about this the last couple of months, and that he had really, really tried, and he thought I was a great girl and he wanted to be with me, but his feelings were chased away by my wish to keep us a secret, to not hurting my bff (I'm not really a bad friend, it is another story, not important to this). He said he has feelings for me, but they were weak, but I think about our little trip and what wonderful time we had. I think there is still something there. He says there is nothing wrong with who I am, the problem is what is around us. How can anyone throw away 11 months in two weeks? I want him to fall in love with me again. Is it even possible