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I started liking a guy who was my friend whilst I was in an abusive marriage last year. Me and this guy remained friends and nothing ever happened. I left my husband in March due to abuse and my friend was very supportive but recently things have changed between us, the other day whilst drunk we ended up kissing and touching each other, he kept pulling back and saying it was a bad idea but then going back into touching me and kissing me. He told me to go home and finish myself off and send him pictures. So I did, I asked him what he'd do to me, he then told me he'd kiss me... after this he avoided me for a whole week ( I told him and apparently he can't remember) unroll this Saturday I text him in his birthday again saying I hope he's having a good night. He says he's at home chilling and I should come over, the texts get quite dirty about having sex and I then send him pictures. He screenshots them. Then tells me he's too drunk to do this he's sorry. I tell him he changed his mind quickly and he says he's sobering up ( when he literally just told me he was too drunk) and he's not in the mood, obviously I do like him but I've told him quite a few times I'm happy being a casual fling. It's like he freaks out every time we start getting sexual, this was a month ago he keeps checking my snapchat pictures constantly but not talking to me. the other day he sent me a picture of snapchat directly but then didn't bother replying. he's now replied to me after sending me pictures ' accidentally' on snapchat. he said he has ' gone into hiding' and that he WILL be back he promises.

My ex of 5 years is my 3 childrens father. We ended things in October and we have recently became close friends. However, when it comes to me dating, he turns into an asshole. We made an agreement that if we met anyone, we would introduce whoever it was to us before we introduced them to the kids. Which was no big deal! But, whenever I mention that I have been talking to someone recently, he turns into an asshole. He says that I am not allowed to date them because he isn't going to like them. Says that he doesn't want the kids around this guy, which they haven't been. Then he will say things like he can't wait to meet this guy and make his life hell. He claims he said that because he wants to see if this guy will crack under weight but it still bothers me. When I bring it to his attention he tells me I need to calm down because it was a joke. I know it wasn't though. I honestly am afraid to even continue with this guy because of my ex. My ex is very mentally abusive. That is one of the reasons why we ended things to begin with. So he knows that him lashing out like this makes me think twice about seeing anyone and I believe that is why he says it. We ended things about 2 years ago for a little while and I started talking to someone, as a friend, and I was threatened to end our conversations because he didn't like it, and shortly after that he weaseled his way back into my life. Advice..