Search Results: i dont want to be approached by guys

By dressed/dolled up I mean more feminine: hair down, dress or skirt
and jewelry with little make up

Regular/casual: hair in a pony tail, conservative clothes where I wear jacket & long pants to cover up with a scarf,
and minimal or now jewelry and make up

I don't get dolled up a lot maybe once or twice a month because I'm too lazy to do all that effort it takes into that.
I'll admit, I'm more confident when I dress up but I feel more comfortable wearing conservatively.


I noticed that when I'm all dressed up, I attract aggressive guys who are into partying and don't care about school.
I know they are only talking to me because I look extra nice. They never seem to mind that I don't party so I guess they dont care my personality. They just straight up ask if they can have my number, some don't even ask if I'm taken! They never acknowledge my existence when I'm dressed down.

When I'm in my regular (casual) outfits I don't get approached as much or by aggressive guys. These guys tend to be kind and actually try to get to know me and hold a long conversation with me.
However they hardly compliment me on my looks. And they dont give me as much attention when I'm all dolled up.

This happens at school and esp in public with random guys.
Outside of school I dress up more but when I look dolled up at school guys just look not talk to me even if I kind of know the guy.
Well in my classes because my college has too many people to recognize around campus

I wish a guy could seem interested in both my looks and personality instead of one or the other. I feel like I attract guys who only want something physical because of my looks Or really like me but are ashamed to go out with me in public

link

A short excerpt:

"And this is why it is so important for a woman not to initiate contact with a man. When you initiate contact with a man before you know his intentions, you are denying yourself the least equivocal and therefore most important indication of his interest. I will go as far as to say that you are denying yourself the only reliable indication of his interest.

A man might make eye contact with you from across the bar, but unless he overcomes his fear or leaves his buddies in order to approach you, he isn't into you enough. Don't approach him. A man might say he wants to see you, but unless he calls to set up a date, he doesn't care enough. Don't call or text him. A man might tell you to come and visit him, but if he cares enough, he will come to you if you suggest it."

Written by a guy, if that matters. I'm on the fence about it, since it contradicts what I think and practice, but at the same time he might have a point. Thoughts?