Passing Women's Tests Continued

Gregs
Before listing some specific, common tests women use its important to say that the easiest way to "pass" all these tests is something that women have been telling men all along, to "be yourself". Since we already said that tests are not so much a pass or fail but a personality test, there are two ways to get the desired result, either, find out each and every question on the test and how to answer it, memorize the exact thing to write, in a way "faking" it OR simply BECOME THE PERSON THAT GETS YOUR DESIRED RESULT.

I put it to you that the reason guys do things for girls, like driving them a long way to their home or buying them gifts or taking them to prom is NOT because that is who they are, not because that is what they want to do but because they are aiming for a specific result. There is nothing wrong with that per say, however there is something wrong when they dont get what they want, then go back to doing the exact same thing expecting a different result.

What most of you are doing right now is NOT you, they are things you are used to doing so much for whatever reason (society, lack of information) that you actually lost touch with who you really are.

None of the things I write are written in stone, they are simply things you can DO and observe the result, they are different and by doing something different to what you are used to doing it will help you examine yourself a lot more and actually find out what you REALLY want to do and what you don't...


THE TESTS

1. Let's just be FRIENDS!!! OMFG!!

Getting into the friends zone really is a hole without a ladder or a rope. Usually the only way out of a hole you dug is to dig up and away from it at an angle. That's a pretty much what you usually need to do when you have spent days, weeks, months and sometimes years digging it (dig away from the girl until you find yourself free then come back and see if there are enough dead animal carcasses piled up in the hole for you to walk over)

How it happens: This usually comes around from guy not being honest with the girl, not making their intent known early on, thinking that being friendly with a girl is the best way to get close to her and that she will "learn" to love him later on. You need only read some questions on GaskG to find out how deep some rabbit holes go (sorry about all the hole metaphors)

How to Pass: In Jiu-Jitsu there is a principal that the best way to escape a hold is to anticipate it, and counter it before its fully on. Lets not kid ourselves, emotionally women are a tough opponent and being in their emotional choke hold is not something you want (I'd rather be in their [another word for rooster] hold)so the best way to pass this test is right when she's handing the shovel over to you.

To pass this test you need to be able to walk away, there is a great power in being able to take it or leave it and that comes from the attitudes I talked about in other stories. Make her know that having her as a "friend" is not something you want, that you can be nice to her when you see her BUT that if you ever hang out with her you ARE going to be going for her. Your saying "Listen, I have plenty of friends and I like you more than a friend, but if that's not what you want I'm ready to walk away from you"

When you say this to a girl, say it in a calm, matter of fact voice, let it be matter of fact that your NOT going to hang around and waste time on her if there is no prospect of the relationship going further. Let her know honestly that you have plenty of friends already, guy friends that don't talk about their asshole ex-boyfriends, and you don't need one more.

Yes you may lose some girls, but those girls were not YOURS to begin with and by walking away you are saving your time and leaving yourself open for the next girl that is even BETTER and that will love you more around the corner. It also lets the girl know that you are not the type of guy that will hang around her, that you ARE ABLE TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE NEW and that if she wants you this is her best opportunity.

How you can fuck it up: You can fuck it up by telling her this and then going back to being her buddy, not making any physical escalation and treating her as a friend rather than a stranger even after she told you she only wants to be friends with you.

2. Do X for me, Buy me X, Lend me X money, take me to X... test

A word on being an asshole: This is something women constantly do! And once you are on top of it you will be surprised how blatant the tests will seem. This is one of those tests that you really need to trust your gut sometimes, women are human and need genuine help sometimes and this is not a guide on how to be an asshole (even though being an "asshole" is something most guys need to try).

If you imagine a scale where the most pussy whipped guy is on one side and a complete maniac asshole is on the other side, the middle path is what Im aiming for, the balance point between the two. Often when guys start to learn this stuff they swing from being total nice guys to being complete assholes, often this starts to work A LITTLE and they get laid A LITTLE but for the most part are still left wondering why nice girls don't hang around them too long or why they only seem to attract girls that need to be locked away in an institution.

Often this is a stage I encourage guys to go through, the experience is worth much more than words. It's one thing to read something on paper and another to actually experience it in the real world, but if you want to have a balanced relationship the balancing needs to start with YOU, You need to go first, your approach and attitudes will determine the type of girl you will get and perhaps you will quickly realize that some of those 10s that you want have some serious problems and to get a real 10, one with a good personality AND looks it takes a little bit more work.

How men fail: There are MANY ways men fail this and usually its buy doing things for women WAY too soon and without much in return. Asking a woman how high they need to jump for her. It starts from buying a drink at the bar, to paying for a restaurant or an expensive prom, to driving a girl home or paying her gas money, to picking her up everyday from work (work that she had no problem getting to and from before she met you)

There is no limit to how far a girl will push you, she will keep pushing you until she has an apartment paid by you and a 20 000 dollar "loan". Or half your stuff from a divorce...

How to pass: Simple, say NO! NO! NO!

she: can you driv... YOU: NO! im busy jerking off...

her: Im going to call you at midnight and talk to you YOU: Nope! I don't FEEL like talking to you right now, maybe tomorrow

it: hey handsome, buy a lady a drink LEGEND: no, how about you buy me one, or better yet, get that guy to buy a drink for us both

something insignificant: If you make me sign a pre-nup it means you dont love me, it means you think we are not going to stay together forever PERSON OF SIGNIFICANT INFLUENCE: well, if we are going to stay together forever then you have no reason to worry about signing a pre-nup do you? NO.

The only way to pass this test is by doing what YOU want, what YOU feel like rather than what will please HER.

Why?: While I wish women would actually enjoy the nice things men do for them, feminist for the most part have pretty much destroyed it. At least it has destroyed it at the start of the relationship which is a good thing IMO, so feminists, GOOD JOB!

Basically there is absolutely no reason why you would do things for a girl before you ARE ALREADY SLEEPING WITH HER!!! just treat her like a stranger, someone you don't know, and the truth is you don't! You could be buying dinner for a girl that tortures cute little bunny rabbits at home!!!

Furthermore even the good girls will have less respect for you if you open up their wallet, so not only do they see you doing stuff for them as something with no strings attached, as in, they don't have to be nice to you and do what you want, but they will chew up you biscuit and expect more. Just like buying stuff for a child, they will only scream at you to buy them more until you tell them enough is enough. Now your going to find some girls that will be shocked, and some girls, those so spoilt they are beyond approach, actually pissed off, but in the end girls will come to your way of seeing things or they will be out the door... :)

Trusting your gut: Now like I mentioned before, sometimes women actually need some help and even when your meeting a girl her asking you to give her a lift might be a way for her to get you closer to her place. This is where you need to listen to yourself, and feel if you are being used or not. If you FEEL that something is off then say no no matter how bad the situation looks. If you feel like doing something nice for a girl, do it without expecting anything in return, do it because YOU FEEL like doing it.

My philosophy: Here is MY personal frame for going out with a girl. Once again it's not written in stone, sometimes you need to trust your gut and steer away from the game plan a little. If I went overseas for example I might even do the complete opposite. Often women overseas appreciate nice gestures much, much more and actually have some respect for it rather than the contempt most Australian/American (From what I hear they are very similar) girls have for it. I, however stick very close to these rules, and i followed all these rules with most girls.

I ONLY pay for a woman's drink AFTER I have made out with her

I ONLY take a woman out to the movies or dinner AFTER I have slept with her

I ONLY spend money on a holiday for us together AFTER I spend more than a year together and fall in love with her

I ONLY give her money AFTER I have kids with her

Although I'm not married or have kids, If I did I would, no matter what, have a pre-nup and have a DNA test to see if the baby is my own

I ONLY talk to my girlfriend on the phone if I FEEL like talking to her

If I don't have sex with a girl after 3 proper meetings, I cut my loses and move on.
Passing Women's Tests Continued
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