Passing Women's Tests

[Gregs]

I think this is going to be a long one since its probably the hardest thing to explain and something most guy want to know about. in reality if you think about it, its very easy to pass the tests women give you, in fact women have been telling you how to pass them all the time, it's just that you interpreted what they were saying in the wrong way. But first to get rid of some doubts..

DO WOMEN TEST?

Yes, get rid of any doubt in your mind that women are not testing men ALL THE TIME, it would be impossible to generalize the complex human into a few categories but for the sake of understanding, women will test you towards two different outcomes, being the sex god, the alpha male, the casanova, their Captain Jack Sparrow or their provider, husband, lets just be friend

WHY DO THEY TEST?

It's probably a question that will drive men insane if they think about it too much, there is no solid reason, for men to understand anyway, on why women test. Some people say its evolutionary, some say its spiritual, some say its subconscious, some say its something they very much consciously do. The way I see it, which is by no means written in stone, is its a little of both made complex through the complexity of human emotions. Sometimes women will consciously say or do something to see you have a specific reaction that they are looking for, and other times they will do something to test you without them even realizing it and your response will create either a good or bad emotion in them that they will act upon.

PASSING THE TESTS

The thing you have to understand is that no matter what you do, you pass the test, its just that the test is not so much one that you either pass or fail but is more of one of those tests that determines what personality trait you are. The reason some guys will talk about passing the tests is because they are talking about doing the test in a way that makes them be the personality type that women will open up their legs for. In reality, the shy, awkward guy you THINK you are now might be just what a woman is looking for when she is 40 years old with two kids and a baby daddy in jail.

HOW SHOULD "I" PASS THE TEST?

This is where you need to make a choice, as much as i wish being a nice guy to women turned them on, as much as I admit that would probably make life a lot better not only for men but for women too, its just not the way things are in this society right now.

If you want to be a "nice" guy, stop reading now, do exactly what your doing now, study hard and make lots of money and when you get older there will be plenty of women out there your age who have "had their fun" and are ready to "settle down" with a nice guy like you. However, expect to be denied sex, bring home the money and do everything at home, be cheated on, raise kids that are not yours, raise kids that have no respect for you.

THE BETTER OPTION... (Or, why you want to start being a bit of a jerk)

Since you understand that you can't change the world, at least not all at once, you want to make the choice that will keep you happy on this planet and perhaps, slowly shift things around. The fact is that being the nice guy that you are now, if that is what you consider yourself now, its actually better for this planet that you act like a bit of a jerk. Why? Because you are still going to be a nice guy, yes your going to be jerky, but at least your not going to beat your wife, or leave her alone with the kids, right? Those assholes out there, and I mean the real assholes are going to keep being assholes, and are going to keep creating the emotions to get the girls you feel would be better off with you right now. The only thing women trust are their emotions and if you can lead their emotions in a way you want them to go they may actually see what a great guy you are all a long and actually respect all the nice things you do for them, rather than hating you inside.

When you become a bit of a jerk you have all the choice, you can get married or settle down, or you can be a player, you don't need to be a player to have the attitudes of a player, you don't need to be a pimp to make a woman feel like she is with one, make the right choice now...

[nermalinda]

In my opinion, women are either into you, or they are not. Nothing you could do, say, or change about yourself will change that. Using PUA tactics will get you in some girls' pants, but it won't change the way they actually feel about you. If you don't want to bankroll a woman who disrespects you, then don't get with that kind of woman. Have self-respect and women will respect you, too.

[NotSoBad]

People test other people to validate their own feelings and emotions. It's not just women, men do it too.

The problem with testing someone to validate ones own feelings will eventually cause problems in the relationship. Continually testing someone will eventually lead to ill communication and trust issues.

[NotSoBad]

The fact is everyone should validate their partners feelings. People need to learn how to express their feelings correctly. They need to stop being so defensive and indirect in the way they convey their emotions and in turn their partner will stop being so defensive and closed minded about sharing their own feelings.

No one wants to get hurt so people are defensive.

Stop asking "Did you miss me?" and start saying "I missed you!"

[toulouse]

Do you think guys don't test?

I have not come across one single article or post that could not be as easily applied to a woman as to a man. Yet people keep clinging to the hope that a solution lies within comprehending&taming dif genders.

Y not Just figure on meeting a lot of dif people during your time on earth. So know thyself well& others will too- They will also TRUST you(remember trust?) to know them & the secret ways to discern secrets becomes superfluous.

Be trustworthy- be trusted:)

[Pandatoast313]

Just be confident and act like an ass at first, you being anass will eventually where off in the relationship, and you will still be with a good woman, she will like your mysterious ways, and confidence and will be pleased long enough to start a relationship. other than that don't be a nice guy at first, be a Dick

[wrali]

I always found this stuff depressing. True, but depressing.

On the other hand, chicks can only get away with being choosy shoppers for a little while. Once they get a little older and the alphas are overlooking them in favour of girls ten or fifteen years younger, the dynamic starts to change.

I actually feel sorry for disloyal, fickle and superficial women. They have 40-60 years of misery after their looks have faded.

[J_D_H]

Yes, a sad reality, it's true for, in my estimation, 95% of women. However, there is a third option, for that last 5%. Basically, you had better be religious. There are some deeply devout religious women who won't judge based on what their emotions tell them, but rather what their faith tells them... so, if you are an upstanding, moral, devout follower, you can get these girls even if you're only a "nice" guy... of course, only for long-term, but, if you're religious, then that's what you want.

[Gregs]

Even the nices girls are going to push your boundries, it all depends how far they are willing to go. This is actually like a two part thing I'm doing and in the next one I'll talk about specific tests, and there are girls out there that will go up to guys and flirt with them in front of you, yes, if a girl wants you to get in a fight for her she probably has some issues but the nicest girls are still going to test you in some way, its in their DNA :)

[gtex1991]

Spot on, this happened to me. a girl liked me, she was older than me too and having been in the game she knew everything. with only talking to me once she could tell I was well mannered, she thought she could have her way easy ordering me around and driving me crazy with the flirting and hints. but I held on firmly and ignored and ridiculed in humorous way sometimes in an arrogant way. she eventually played by rules

the key is not to fall for a woman's traps to see you reaction

[Hughman]

You haven't really explain the concept of sh*t-testing for the poor newbies on here. Still, good advise. The more white-knights and manginas we can wake up, the better.

[GIntrovert]

I say avoid women who act like this, and breed them out of existence.

[gtex1991]

And if you say yes like a puppy its over before it has began, and guys will wonder if she was playing games

[qwer1234]

Could anyone tell me how women test or give me aan example of a woman's test?