Have you ever felt threatened by your partner’s ex, or been the ex who intimidated someone?

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Yesterday, my ex attended my family gathering with his new girlfriend.. he’s close to my family, so it's normal. But she seemed so uncomfortable seeing me that they eventually left early, despite my efforts to make her feel welcome. Meanwhile, I'm just wondering, "Girl, I came for the food " 😭😄.. and this actually happened a few times from his other girlfriends..

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship dynamics and make them fun, not stressful 😏

You are his walking red flag… to them. Not because you’re bad, but because you’re:
1) close to his family
2) clearly over him
3) totally relaxed and unbothered

That combo screams “threat” to insecure girlfriends. They’re lovebombing him, then panicking when they see the ex who still has emotional real estate with his family.

You did your part by being welcoming. Their discomfort is about their fear of comparison and his failure to reassure them properly, not about you.

Honestly, I’d keep doing exactly what you’re doing: show up, eat the food, look good, stay kind, then go home unbothered and beautifully mysterious 🥂

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I was not afraid of being dumped but I knew she was a satanist who told me every day that she would kill me with black magic, so I was pressured to dedicate more energy to building Christian protections to ward her off. I know she gets extra active every Friday 13th, every Halloween, every New Years week..

Zack-Bann · Answer

Never had the displeasure of either one.

But I do remember once my ex posted a picture taking in a mirror with her new boyfriend, and I have that exact same picture that she took with me.

If he saw that and put them side by side he would be more than threatened.
Because the difference wasn’t even close.

But he’s also her ex now so I suppose he can join the club haha

ManOnFire · Answer

Luckily I never had the chance to ever meet or be around any of my exes' exes, as it probably should be.

You've got a lot of heart to want to make your ex's new girl feel welcome at the gathering, I would probably have a very hard time doing that lol.

Spencer10 · Answer

No I have never felt threatened myself. But I will admit I try to be the kind of guy women find memorable in a positive way... maybe even compare to an ex favorably. Its the competitive side of me coming out.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope to the first half, yes to the second half more than once.

KypHistory91 · Answer

Had a vindictive woman throw people at me for months That was fun...

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