This girl I just started dating is a strong, vivacious woman.
So it came as a surprise yesterday when this tough as nails feminist woman was sending me text messages: "I miss you baby", "I don't feel well baby", "Come cuddle with me. I don't feel well. Just for a little bit." The final straw that was tough to take was: "Baby, I miss you. Did you know I just bought some lingerie?"
Most beta male guys who have a mindset that they can't ever get sex would be at their ladies beck and call within minutes. Even in the midst of work or school or a busy day they would re arrange their schedules to check in on their girl when she begs them. Happy wife, Happy life. Right?
DO NOT DO THIS. It is an attraction kill. She is shit testing you to see your masculine frame. Are you a strong fatherly, provider type of man on your purpose? Or are you a puppy dog desperate for sex with nothing going on that is important in your life?
Ask yourself. Why is James Bond so sexy to women? He's a daredevil. A vagabond in a suit. Women get wet because of his un-attainability. He is simply unavailable. He can't be taken for granted.
Don't get it twisted guys. I am not talking about neglect. But when she begs you to come over. Make sure you are doing something. Organize a time to see her when you are free and stick to that. Tell her, "Baby, Superman is on his purpose. See you tomorrow." "I wish I could be there but I can't." or "I'm doing important work but thinking of you."
Turns out she was on her period. Emotional. She sent me a text message though saying, "I like this new side of you. Like you're always busy-never talking on the phone-its different."
After my days achievements were done. I went to see her. She had longed to see me and was intimately rewarded.
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Um I don't know about you but I like when a guy is available lol. Of course trust needs to be built but if I wanted to spin in circles wondering what is it about me that gets his attention and what pushes him away, I mean, i dont want to give up my single life if that's what is awaiting me. I just want to know a guy is involved in my life even when it doesn't need a legitimate reason like i was in a car accident just to get him on the phone in a call. Sigh whatever
Have you been in a relationship? I think maybe you are right. Every woman is different. But think about any relationship you have had with a guy. What really attracted you to him. Be honest now! haha. Was it some guy who was your puppy and always there and would talk to you all day every day. Responding to text messages in 2 seconds?
Or... were you more horny for the mysterious guy? The guy who didn't reply for an hour or two and you wondered what he was up to. They guy who told you he missed you but had some work to get done. The guy who sent you a text message describing what he was going to do to you in bed later that night? And was your body not begging for him to arrive at your door at 7pm and do everything he was sexting you?
The games are fun at first. Once you're with someone long enough, it's annoying to be left to wonder