The issue of what's popularly referred to as "shit tests", aka fitness tests, comes up often enough I've decided to write up a post so we can put this issue to rest for a while.
When it comes right down to it shit tests are typically women's way of flirting. Women generally do not shit test men they have no interest in, so if you're getting them then it's often a good thing. Let's look at what shit test actually are:
Rapport BREAKS
Rapport breaks are a type of flirting where women throw you a faux indicator of disinterest to see how you handle it. If you respond in kind then you pass. In essence it is a form of mirroring each other's level of investment, or as they say, like attracts like.
So why are rapport breaks a form of flirting? The main reason is that it gives women a degree of emotional stimulation. Plus there's the fact that most men buckle to women's shit tests and don't respond in kind. This demonstrates a lack of social and emotional maturity. Those who "pass" show they can handle the woman's BS and is "on her level", so to speak.
This is where the evolutionary theory comes into play: you're demonstrating her faux negativity doesn't phase you and that you're an emotionally developed person who isn't going to melt down at the first sign of trouble. Ergo you'll be able to protect her when threats to her safety emerge.
In short, when women bust on you (could be a shit test or otherwise) you should reply in kind. When it comes right down to it this is the core essence of flirting.
HOW TO PASS A SHIT TEST:
1. The Nuclear Option
(Reserved for women who aren't flirting and are giving shit tests because they're deliberately trying to tool you, or worse).
The "Nuclear Option" is when you destroy their self-worth with the notion you do not find them sexually appealing in any way whatsoever. For attractive women this is in all likelihood the worst hit you can inflict on a woman's ego. Anyone that's broken up with a hottie because her personality is shit knows exactly what I'm talking about. In other words you're nuking their ego/self-esteem from orbit. I strongly recommend reserving this option only for women who are on the offensive and deliberately trying to be a bitch for whatever reason and/or tear you down in front of others.
2. Commanding respect
This is especially important for the kind of testing where they're just being an annoyance and generally disrespectful. in my opinion disrespect should not be tolerated and needs to be nipped in the bud, and is an important way to maintain frame control. You simply need to be firm and treat her like a father would to their child who's being disrespectful. You don't get angry, you just call her on the behavior and let her know clearly that you won't stand for it.
3. Ignore her shit test completely
4. Change the subject
5. Agree and Amplify (BEST METHOD)
Agree & amplify is usually the preferred method because they're often fun (read: stimulating) and non-reactionary. In my experience you'll get betterresults out and it's less likely to blow up in your face/have a negative outcome than the other methods since context does still matter and the others are easier to misapply.
Example:
"Were you checking out that girl?"
Yeah, I was thinking I could totally rock those heels better than her
Is sex the most important thing to you/all you ever think about?"
Yep! They're even doing a documentary on me on the Learning Channel about sex addictions.
"How come you never do X for me?"
Didn't I buy you McDonalds the other day? Pretty sure I did. (Note: this is one that is best dealt with by ignoring or topic change)
NOW TAKE THIS KNOWLEDGE AND PASS THAT SHIT TEST.
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