15 Signs She's Screaming "NO WAY!"

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

1. She stares blankly at your jokes. They have no future.

2. She's always in a hurry to leave. "Gotta bounce! Chronic diarrhea, you know..."

3. She compliments other guys in front of you. "Wow Look at that one! Such a hot bod, definitely future husband material!"

4. Social distancing becomes her priority whenever you try to chat.

5. She's never down for solo outings. Every invitation turns into a group activity, making you wonder if she secretly has her own soccer team.

6. Her replies are one-word wonders. "Yup."

7. Eye contact? Nope. She'd rather stare at literally anything ... except you.

8. The Boyfriend Lie. "Yeah, I have a boyfriend. He's from another nation. (IMAGI-NATION)

9. Your life? Zero curiosity. ‍(Almost asked your name, but nah, not really interested.)

10. Compliments on your looks or skills? Forget about it. When you set up with your buddies or boast about your "body count" she's probably thinking, 'Seriously, with that face?'

⚠️ If she has even a shred of moral compass and normal human decency, she'll definitely reject you because...

11. You're already married/have a girlfriend/partner. She's Team The Only Wife and rocks the #HandsOffMarriedMen hashtag.

12. She keeps reminding you about your wife and kids. ‍ "How's the fam doingggg?"

13. She mocks your polygamy dream. "Smart men only have one wife. "

14. She ignores your friend requests on literally every platform. No Line, Facebook, or TikTok for you.

15. She hits you with the ultimate block. "Blocked!"

How about yours? Please share.

Thank you, Jamie for your pics. 😁

[Jamie05rhs]

"if she secretly has her own soccer team."
Hahahahahaha. This was hilarious.


Great post!

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you!!!

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

Thanks for the MHO!

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

🤗🤗🤗

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

This is the best and most accurate MyTake I've seen so far. Thanks for the laughs! 😂😊

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I'm glad you like it. Thank you.

[Summeroflove]

This is brutally honest advice but some people are just in denial either because they aren’t that attractive but want to find any sign that a woman is attracted well maybe she’s just nervous etc. Orrrrrrr…. a man is attractive is just used to women being into him and when there is one who isn’t….

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you for your input.

I see your point. Well, it depends on the taste of people too. Some actually look nice to others, but for you they don't. We can't actually tell who is attractive or not. Plus, most of the time, our true and honest feelings would be twisted by social norms.

E. g. I am Asian, but I never consider Korean POP idols (men&women) truly beautiful. For the reason that they are not authentic, plastic surgeries and cosmetic procedures turn me off.

Lastly, looks fade. If that person is hot, but has unbearable traits, no one will stay forever.

[Summeroflove]

So this is true. Just because some women (of men for ladies) aren’t attracted doesn’t mean they all are. Sorta like the song “some girls do”. So sometimes take rejection as someone not wasting your time so you can find someone who genuinely is. Just some people get too hooked on someone they don’t even know well

[Summeroflove]

Also people do age. But most of being attractive is is putting effort into yourself. Someone can be very vain spending hours on appearances and be fake as a three dollar bill. But it depends not all good looking people are either

[Genie23]

🤣🤣🤣 I enjoyed reading this. Awesome Take!

[genericname85]

i LOVE how you perfectly represented female behavior by showing 15 ways that women comunicate and the one probably most effective thing women never do: "just saying straight up what the fucking problem is" not being one of them xD

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you very much for your kind words. I think women are not direct because some men are aggressive and might not handle rejections well. I had to play along with a man since he's huge and seemed to kill me within seconds. So, it's about our safety, too.

[genericname85]

yeah so what? then they're not gonna take it well. they're gonna throw a tantrum at you and then leave you alone. done deal. yes men can be aggressive but luckily there's still the social standard for men not to hit women. so what's the problem with that? i can't believe women prefer prefer men to run after them infinitely cause they didn't get the message and instead throwing an infinite ammount of mistakable bread crumb hints instead of saying one time what is going on in clear and direct words. you don't have to be a douchebag about it. men like direct communication.

[genericname85]

you know the reason for men reacting angry or aggressive is that anger is the only negative emotion men are socially accepted to display. men are conditioned not to ever display sadness, regret, shame, intimidation, depression, guilt, disappointment or loneliness. all they get is anger. so if a man reacts angry to being told off, just consider that this is litterally the only emotion he was trained to show. so naturally since he's gonna have negative emotions in that situation anger is what it's gonna be.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

What if men just express those emotions like "I'm disappointed." "It's sad to hear that." It's easier for women to respond as well?
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It's the society and parents to train men to be that way, right? But when it comes to dating or flirting, isn't it all about being vulnerable and brave to show your true feelings to a potential partner? In case she's bitter and mock you for that, then you know she not the right one.
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By the way, I am an INTJ. Being emotional is not my thing at all. I'm also learn how to express them in a healthy way. It's not easy for me to just identify what I'm feeling. As a thinker, I just wish this could help people who lack interpersonal skills like I do read the facial expressions and body languages.
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And you have no idea how many men were so stubborn even though I literally said "No".

[theycallme_jd]

Most men wouldn't throw hands on you when you straight up reject them. This is hilarious. And don't blame your personality for not being straightforward. If you aren't straightforward, you aren't. You aren't stopped automatically because you're INTJ. It's because you're nervous or anxious, and you need to work on it.
Yes it would be great if people could get it easily from your body language on what you feel, but if it doesn't happen, you need to know what to do and must do it. Period.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@theycallme_jd I did say No with my original Death stare, yet some men don't care and keep pushing.

[genericname85]

well then maybe "try" clear and direct but non offensive communication for once xD trust me it is effective. i find it strange that women avoid that so hard.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Okay. I'm improving to be more assertive. 😌

[1Rezz]

Ure talking about a social standard as if, there aren't too many cases if women getting killed simply for rejecting a man😭 and the ones who'd do that are generally the ones who pester u, even if u showed clear signs of dislike..

[1Rezz]

Tf no... u're crazy, like seriously so.. we should just take abusive behaviour.. cuz those men don't want therapy and dont know how to deal with their emotions?
Idgaf who u are... if someone doesn't like u, u have no right to be pissed at them really, I mean they can't help it, nobody chooses who they fall for, ontop of that...

And the fact that they can't take rejection is actually a HUGE sign they are not ready for a relationship... why the hell would u chase.. or potentially even kill someone because they aren't romantically attracted to u..

[genericname85]

@1Rezz yes. you should take abuse. that is exactly what i said. thanks for reading and understanding.

[genericname85]

@1Rezz i was of course being sarcastic, just in case you also didn't understand that. you should really stop using your victim complex to talk yourself out of uncomrortable actions that really are the right actions.

[1Rezz]

How was I supposed to see that this was sarcasm, perhaps if it was in person but online yeah its harder to tell
That aside how is what i said "victim complex"
U phrased things in a way that made ut sound like u were excusing, them taking anger out on people and abusing then cuz "they weren't allowed to feel their emotions as a kid"
Trauma is a reason for abuse and behaviours but never an excuse, I was trying to get that point across but it seems it did not work.

What uncomfortable situation am I trying to get myself out of anyways?

I'm in the comfortm of my own home, who am I running from😭 a random on the internet who doesn't share my opinion? I genuinely love debates, cuz it's a way for me to learn more about people and I may get insight from them aswell...
Just seems ure trying to run here... also seemed like projecting but who cares

[genericname85]

@1Rezz i was litterally just saying that speaking in clear and direct words is the most effective way of communication that for some reason women always avoid. and the reason women (probably like you as well) use is something along the lines of "hurr durr but he may get violent". so first of all, that is very unlikely. men do not typically abuse or beat women. even that assumption is crazy misandrist.

like i'm not saying men "never" hit women but i'm willing to go out on a limb and say that if you're dealing with that type of guy, it doesn't really matter what you're saying. so using this extremely rare nutcase example as a base line to inform your behavior is equally as crazy as this type of man in the first place.

and what i was saying is that instead of just using clear and direct communication which can be confrontational and somewhat uncomfortable, you keep avoiding it and using this crazy victim complex of "but he may be aggressive and hit me".

i'm just pointing out that the argument you use to legitimate avoiding direct and clear communication is unreasonable.

i did never ever say "oh you should get hit". wtf even is this. like even you insinuating that makes me feel like you're insane.

[genericname85]

@1Rezz like yes he may take a rejection badly and get angry or unfriendly. so what? neither is that abuse, nor is that hurting you.

[genericname85]

@1Rezz these 15 signs the asker described is just 15 crazy ways to avoid just saying shit straight up and therefore creating unnecessary missunderstanding and aggression that could so easily be avoided if you just speak directly.

[1Rezz]

I get ur point, as for the communication.. unfortunately majority of people regardless of their sex are not really that direct. I was just trying to make a point, some women have fear of men, due to experiences they might ve had, or have seen others getting assaulted in said situation, and it seems those ladies are now afraid..

(not saying this is majority of women cuz I know, the majority aren't direct because.. Because? I don't even know atp, it's actually a question I ask myself 😭, why do people beat around the Bush just telling would have saved us from so many misunderstandings)

Pls try to understand, as i mentioned earlier, u phrased it in a way that made it sound like, people should just tolerate abuse or certain behaviour because its excusable yk

It's bound to cause misunderstandings when it does sounded like "yeah let him" yk, but Now that uve explained, I see it was not what u meant

[1Rezz]

The 15 signs exist cuz majority aren't direct, and I wish this wasn't the case...
For "THAT" type of person who'd genuinely attack u..
Their aggression will come regardless of wether u avoid it or directly state ur feelings
But it's more likely once u've told them tho

[ShellyB]

Most of these things are super super obvious. At least to me and I know girls have a reputation for being less direct or whatever but, could a guy REALLY miss that stuff? I mean if you don’t understand these signs, would you even understand “leave me alone” or would you think that was playing hard to get or whatever?

[Lliam]

That was great, el_Te_de_la_Rosa. Made me laugh.
It must suck to not be able to read body language.

And married men who are trolling for other women are degenerate.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you very much. 😊😊 I know if I just write normally with my original tone, no one would care.

Have a great weekend, sir.

[Pohjolan]

*shrugs*

Our problem is not realising that that gal isn't interested but figuring out that the one who leans on us and presses their boobs against our chest is so not into us.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Wow. I'm pondering about that recently. Decoding women's actions are tough. I noticed some who acted as you said. She flirted with men doing so while married and has kids. In my opinion, women who openly flirt are not that interested. The ones who are actually attracted to you will appear to be nervous, never do such things.

[Pohjolan]

So women who are interested behave less interested than women who are not interested?
That doesn't make any sense.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Yup. Check this out.
https://youtu.be/-zsiKMz3hAw?si=T4ZwX_533btV9-tY
I'm surprised too.

[theycallme_jd]

Sigh. This is exactly why I hate the whole concept of dating. I'm sick of playing games.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@theycallme_jd Me either. It's boring. If I notice when someone tries a tactic Ijust leave.

[1Rezz]

It does not make sense at all and I agree, honestly take her words with a grain of salt...
I have a tip tho, if she's constantly flirting with not just u but everyone, then that may just be her personality and not an actual interest
As for her playing hard to get, I'd say don't really bother, u can ask and if she rejects that's it

The third group would be those who, act normal around everyone but off around u, they act as if they're nervous.. that might be a sign they like u or a sign they are extremely uncomfortable round u... whichever it may be, watching their behavior would be best.
One way to tell the difference is : does she constantly avoid any conversation and actually keep distance at all cost? If so likely she doesn't like u

If she tries to engage in conversation with despite her nervousness, then it may be a sign she lik u, but then again, she could be doing it to fill up the silence

The one way in most cases u tell difference is if they actually pay attention to u, like u tell her about urself and the things u love.. she remembers tge details? That's a case where its highly likely she likes u.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@1Rezz @ Thank you very much for your explanation. Your words speak for me. Me would be in the last group. And "remembering details" is spot on.

[DarkLegacy]

All of these things are pretty obvious and easy to read, but seriously married men should not be chasing after married women and vice versa.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Yes. And single women as well. I am a teacher, so I feel sorry for kids whose their fathers abandoned them for a new younger wife.

[strateguy632]

1 no! just different type of humor. not more.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I tried not to be sarcastic as possible. 5555

[patois]

All you did is describe a passive-aggressive narcissist. Were you describing your own mental illness?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Yes.

[JHAYES317]

Or she could be mature and just be like “hey I’m not into you like that but I’m ok being friends”

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

True. And if a man himself is not mature, she needs to take action to be more clearer than just a word.

Some men think No means Yes.

[exitseven]

This was really disturbing because it is just so true.

[Juxtapose]

These behaviors sound pretty borish. I would question why she's even hanging out with me if she's gonna be such a bitch.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

That's why men should be able to read the cues before approaching to protect their hearts.

[Juxtapose]

That must be nice for people who are not autistic like I am. I don't have that luxury.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Do you make eye contacts with people?

[Juxtapose]

Yeah, I was taught how to do that and a lot of the basics I have covered. I can appear like a normal person for a while until you dig underneath the surface or you see me not get a few things that normal people would understand.

[Juxtapose]

I am very much still a person that tries to steer conversations towards a very blunt and honest direction so I can be clearer about what is being said and what is meant.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you. I have to learn how to read people's emotions, too. Some people said that I was too straight forward, so I adjusted myself. But I think it's individual, varied from person to person. We all have a unique way of perceiving infromation and communicating. So it's not always because of you.

Cheers!

[Juxtapose]

Why do you think you are straightforward yourself? And you're welcome 👍

[CrabCakes11]

Looks like it’s working

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

People in my childhood judged how I was too direct and blunt. Now I'm getting older, my communication style changed. It's hard when talking to feelers and sensitive ones. Some said I have no common sense. My... I can't even say how I feel when insulted. Normally, if I think they are rude, I just ignore and walk away. In short, I think my actions speak louder.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

#11 sounds like horse shit. it can't be a coincidence that women always have affairs with married men

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Visit Thailand... get to know some men here. Then you'd understand their mentality.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

https://pin.it/77SBOhoJ2

[Filthy_Immigrant]

I been dying to visit that place. and about your drawing that is not a fucking excuse, unless the married man holds you at gunpoint

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Nah... men here don't use guns. They use knives and acid.

[AngryCarl]

I feel like these should all be just common sense. But maybe not when your reproductive organs have usurped your thinking processes.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I'm not sure what you meant. It sounds like onset dementia to me... And yes. I was also referring to aged men I met. Some of them should get a serious treatment. It's dangerous to let people with a disorder walking around. I had been harassed from time to time. It's not appreciated.

[AngryCarl]

I was trying to get around the idea that men think with their penis.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I see.

[FuqUFggt]

Did anyone read this? I could barely get through the header

[Siri137]

Perfect! :D

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you!

[jeffend888]

Why are you 39 but speak like you're 19?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I've learned how to communicate with people with all ages. Esp. Boys.

[jeffend888]

Explains why you're 39 and single.

[Juxtapose]

Don't be an ass dude.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

@Juxtapose Thanks. I can explain.

@jeffend888
- I'm Thai who prefer Caucasians since I was a teen. Mixed people are beautiful. Alas, now I'm too old for kids. I'm neutral to rush into a relationship.
- I don't fit in Thai beauty standard. So, I
don't care much if they don't ask me out to date properly. Only Thais don't see my beauty doesn't mean others from overseas can't.
- The thing is non-single men are running around, hoping they can have a chance to get another wife (according to the dinosaur culture) This is unacceptable to me, so that I added the part about married men.
- Personally, I am introverted, and found out recently that I'm demisexual who prefer deep conversations over just looks. Then, I can feel connected on the emotional level. If a man can't start with a nice and respectful interaction, boasting about their "size" and bla bla bla, I'm not interested.
- I've observed the behaviours of Thai men and westerners so far, then I finally come up with my draft for another MyTake. Since some foreigners asked me how to date Thai women, I think I can help them by pointing out the Pros and Cons.
- I dated foreigners before, but they just want a holiday girlfriend. Sadly, I can't be cheaper than a prostitute.
- I never let anyone touch me if you're curious. I still expect marriage.

Hope this clarifies something...

[Juxtapose]

Certainly 🤜🤛

[Sevenpointfive]

no means go!

[MicahRaine]

Big gacgs

[MicahRaine]

* facts

[MicahRaine]

Where's my autocorrect when I need it 😫

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

That's okay. I don't mind that. But you're not sarcastic, right?

[MicahRaine]

Naw I'm bring serious lol

[MicahRaine]

*being

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thanks.