Signs She Isn’t Into You

[Pinup_Scarlett46]

She’s not a b*tch. She’s just not interested.

1. She responds and calls only when it’s convenient for her.

2. She avoids making plans with you.
3. She never texts or reaches out first.
4. Flakiness

Now let’s say she does agree to go out, but then “something” comes up. Sure, things happen, but if this becomes habitual, it’s time to take a more practical approach and notice what’s really going on.
5. Doesn't seem interested or invested in the conversation.
If this below conversation sounds familiar, it might be time to read between the lines:

You: How’s your day?
Her: Good.
You: What are you doing?
Her: work

You : how’s your night?
her : good

Let’s be honest, women love to talk.

If she isn’t talking to you, then she’s talking to someone else or she’s not really into you . Consider this a “stop” sign and do not proceed just know she’s not interested in you .
6. Seems to be focused on basically anything else but you.

7. She Doesn’t Care about the Topics You’re Discussing

8. She Doesn’t Ask You Any Personal Questions

9. She Doesn’t Seem Excited When You Ask Her Out

[ManOnFire]

"She’s not a b*tch. She’s just not interested."

So she should be telling the dude something like "No hard feelings, but I'm not really interested." All the things you noted are things cowardly women do. And yeah, we've heard the excuse a million times: a chick will do those things because they "don't want to hurt the guy's feelings," or hope he "gets the message." It just doesn't fly anymore. Be an adult and communicate directly.

Apart from that, it just feels like another post just wanting to let guys know she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you. Not to actually be helpful, but to just perpetuate more She's Not Interested programming for men's minds.

[kramchancel]

In addition, they should stop offering friendship when they don't mean it. Friends talk to each other and you barely interact with me. Then poor dude is wondering if he did something wrong when you don't respond to messages.

[ManOnFire]

@kramchancel Also a good point, yeah.

[Summeroflove]

That’s true. Some people get angry. Because someone’s a nice person and a good friend. They just aren’t into them for one reason or another.

Not everyone is going to be attracted to you and you’re not going to be attracted to everyone.

It does not mean they hate you on a personal level. They may even like you… Just not in that way.

If someone is legitimately a bitch thorough. Why is she even worth it? She did you a favor by rejecting you.

I mean. Hey. Sometimes things don’t work out. That’s why you date. To see who you’re compatible with.

Sometimes things aren’t mean to be and there isn’t a problem with either person.

[Desconhecida]

True. But there are many other important signs you missed.

[Bluemax]

Enlighten us

[Desconhecida]

@Bluemax the most obvious red flag is the avoidance of the "talk" - when a girl likes you she'll want to define the relationship even if to be sure you don't date other people. Women who dont like labels just don't like you. in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

She can change her mind if you show that you have money$$

[Pinup_Scarlett46]

Not all

[Guy13]

Ewww. She's not even pretty !!

[Miristheiss]

All are pretty spot on.

Guys that are good with women usually are always judging a woman's interest and is good and looking for the little signs and he will quickly determine if a woman is showing signs of interest (and he will proceed further) or showing signs she is not interested and he will stop attempting to pursue her.

The naive and ignorant ones will keep calling and pursuing girls that are not interested totally oblivious that she is not interested or wrongly thinking he'll "win" her over or thinking (falsely he needs to try harder).

Guys that are good with women can usually tell in just a minute or so of conversation that she is interested or not. If he was given a number he can tell after a text or 2 if the interest is gone and he doesn't waste his time.

A woman who is interested will face you and smile and make eye contact (usually) and talk to you and ask you questions and laugh at things you say, she may touch you on the arm or leg or hand. If you ask for her number she'll give it. She may give you her card or email info too. If she is really interested she may even suggest the best time to reach her.

If she is not interested she'll face away from you, having her body turned facing away from you. She'll always be looking away and at the room as if she is focused on what is happening elsewhere. She'll not ask you any questions and all of her answers will be short "yeah", "oh", "yes", "no", "ok". If you ask for her number she won't give it or she'll say she doesn't give it out but you can give her your card or she'll make up a number.

Guys that are on the ball can quickly navigate and identify the no interests and move on and hone in on those that display interest.

[kramchancel]

"A woman who is interested will face you and smile and make eye contact (usually) and talk to you and ask you questions and laugh at things you say, she may touch you on the arm or leg or hand. If you ask for her number she'll give it. She may give you her card or email info too. If she is really interested she may even suggest the best time to reach her."

Nahh this is not a good indication. Some gals are just natural flirts and attention whores. Heck even the touching part is not a good indicator. You know whats a good indicator? someone who is willing to spend time with you outside of school/work.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This just seems like common sense things regarding friendships in general with either gender, rather than being specifically relationship advice.

That said, I do see it as a negative personality trait for to her retain communication with me if she's not interested in doing so, so a lot of those "signals" in my opinion, are not worth reading, because aside from a lack of directness/bluntness being a toxic trait in people, if she does even one of those things, she isn't going to have my attention long enough to do the rest of them.

The kind of stuff you are talking about isn't a sign to not persue a relationship, its a sign to cut the person out of your life entirely, because at that point, she views you as a resource, not as a friend (as you are only worth contacting if she needs something from you, ie she is a selfish jerk, or, as you put it, a bitch). It would be different if it were networking or commerce, but in socializing, that sort of behavior doesn't fly.

Even my friends are more talkative and reliable than that by a mile, and I only date female best friends. I can't imagine why any guy would persue a woman who very much seems disinterested in even knowing him, meanwhile I say no to a woman persuing me if she doesn't obsess over me and have literally everything on common with me mentally.

If this kind of desperation is so widespread that you felt the need to post that, raise the fucking bar guys 🤦🏻

Also the pic doesn't match the post. The pic says "Give me attention and lust after me", while the post says "Don't do that, go away". Which I bring up, because If you want guys to determine things based on subtle signals alone (which by the way is a good way to turn off any guy you do actually want), you need to avoid sending mixed signals, and avoid flirting with or sexually showing off to crowds. Otherwise you become impossible to read.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This by the way is actually the biggest reason models and actors tend to have the worst love lives (second only to strippers and prostitutes).
They are hard to read and hard to trust, you can't tell what they are really thinking or what they really want, because they are so good at being fake/pretending most of the time for their jobs.

[art84]

"She Doesn’t Ask You Any Personal Questions"

Went through this where the girl never asked me anything and I did all of the talking over the phone. She never asked me anything about myself. She would just have one word answers when asking her if she was available to go.

"She avoids making plans with you."

When she has plans that involve visiting "family" in my case or something comes up at the last moment then that clearly means she doesn't want to see you.

I think most women just don't want to be honest with a guy and let him down when asking her out. Though I don't expect every girl to be attracted to be as most just would consider myself a friend and not have feelings toward me which is alright. I know my dad would tell me that not every girl you ask out is going to say yes to you. It might take asking out 100 girls until you find the right girl. If she says no then just respect her decision and move on and don't get upset over it. Plenty of women in the world to choose from.

[Finchie40]

This is pretty spot on but with some wiggle room , some people just have bad days and are stressed out about shit and it seems they are taking it out on you so the only way this is true is if it’s consistent When it’s consistent that’s what causes the warning signs to trigger and to give you questions of concern? We as people can only really give what we want to receive , if it comes down to you always giving without receiving then it’s best to reconsider the chemistry and connection with that person on whether they are really into you or just like the convenience of you. Or not into you at all. I been burned and my heart shit on so my warning signs trigger faster nowadays because of how this world is today , so I don’t tolerate shit like I use to , I don’t commit to someone to be single , If they can’t remove selfishness for me I sure as hell won’t remove it for them

[MystiKaL]

This is perfectly fine, guys should get the message and move on. Everyone has the right to distance themselves from some one they don't like.

What is unacceptable is she (or he) does all these things then gets back in contact , just when he's moving on. That's just playing games and wrong.

[Alex8736]

I am someone who can easily take a hint as in #5 where she never really had anything to say but those 1 word answers whether talk/text or in person so when i backed off and did my own thing i get a random call asking where we stood and when i said friends she started talking more in 2 minutes vs the last 2 months asking me "why just friends?". talk about mixed signals lol

[DJB72]

Monosyllabic is definitely not a good sign.

Again, you can tell by looking at her feet. If one is moving rapidly towards your balls, she's probably not interested...

[hafinjun]

And to repeat your opening statement," she's not being a b**** she's just not into you no reason to take it personally" great advice

[Hypermotard1916]

Arranged marriages will solve these stupid problems HAHAHA...

[User3191989]

This is somewhat true, but, a lot of it is false.


Some women, actually might not want to come off as “easy”, so they might play hard to get, therefore, acting like it


I actually prefer those types of girls

[AdithyaR]

I just found it easier to assume everyone's just being nice to me and not flirting or anything. Never getting hurt and never coming off as presumptuous.
And fortunately I always seem to be right.

[Sparkie460]

Good insight. Fortunately I'm taken so I don't have to worry about dating

[exitseven]

What about if she displays all of the above but still tells you she loves you and still talks about getting married to you someday?

[Xylem1992]

This is a good take because guys need to know signs of rejection; I would say even more than signs of attraction.
So I agree with all you said. I think they are valid.

[BJP21]

Another way to tell, if she orders rabbit food and you having the steak dinner. Ladies dont lie I've seen you eat the full coarse lobster dinner, and chase it with an IPA.

[Anonymous]

She's a woman

That's the biggest sign

Thankfully no-one is interested in me and it makes life far easier to watch this game people call dating as a spectator sport

[TroyDT2]

No problem. There are four billion women out there.

[thorboy]

nah! you just described a bish... just tell the guy you aren't interested.

Stop these stupid behaviours.

[Shiningtempest]

@Pinup_Scarlett46 Your take is one of the reason why I consider asking a person out on a date as equivalent to gambling at a casino.