Ways To Tell She's NOT Into You

[Zombie-Killa]

Something's is not meant to be in life, No matter how much you want them. One of the most painful situations in life is loving someone that just doesn't love you back like that.

Sometime's you mistake kindness for flirting, Or you just see what you want to see. Either way, It's unhealthy to pursue a hopeless relationship. So pay close attention to the signs, And save yourself a world of pain if you can.

1. She sends you short, one-word text responses. And it can take her days to respond to your text, tweets, Facebook post, Or even voicemails.

You pour your heart out in paragraph after paragraph of loving text, And she responds with 'cool' or 'lol'. Bad sign, Bro.

2. Mismatched Emojis

You send her a <3 and she responds with a :) . *OUCH* That hurts.

3. She Tells you she's not ready for a relationship right now.

She means that she is ready for one, Just doesn't want one with you.

4. She feeds you a line about needing to focus on herself now or some sh*t.

She means that you should stop stalking her, Creepy asshole.

5. When she says "Let me think about it, OK"

She means hell no, But she still loves having you around to admire her like a little puppy.

6. If you ever try to bring up you and her in a romantic way and she's non-responsive or makes excuses.

She is not interested but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

7. If she does agree to go on a date with you, but seems bored or constantly distracted.

You are on a pity date, And she can't wait for it to be over. Just hope it extends into pity sex!

8. She constantly reminds you of what a good friend you are.

She's constantly reminded you that your ass is friend zoned bigger than Hell!

9. She describes the man of her dreams as the exact opposite of what you are.

Her way of letting you know that you are NOT the man of her dreams.

10. She makes you a total 'Duckie'

She is way too comfortable talking to you about her crappy ex-boyfriends, And other guys she's interested in. She's essentially making you one of her girlfriends with a penis, A penis she will never be interested in.

Grumpy said it best:

Women can be Evil incarnate, So proceed with extreme caution!

Also, Some of these could be used the other way around to let a girl know if a guy likes her or not. Who knows?

[Anonymous]

3 is somewhat of a generalization. There are plenty of people, men and women, out there who are NOT ready for a relationship AT ALL. Some might have gone through a bad breakup recently and don't feel like it, some might be too busy with work or school or both to also have time for a relationship, and others might just not be the relationship type and want to have their fun. It's true that a girl might say something like that in the sense that "I don't want to have a relationship right now (with you)" but there are many other plausible explanations as to why she would say something like that. It doesn't JUST mean she's lying and trying to soften the blow. She could genuinely just not want a relationship for whatever reason. The same thing applies to number 4, although it's a cliché and a pretty cheesy thing to say, there are people out there who have been too caught up with other people's feelings and stuff that they've completely forgotten about themselves and who they are/what they want. So it's not entirely impossible that this isn't just a line, too.
Otherwise good take.

[Anonymous]

It's funny because as much as i hate to say it this is all true, no one can just be straight up with how they feel anymore and then you get the rubbish like " you mean a lot to me " " and i'm glad we met you helped me through what felt like hell " and then once your usefulness is up you just get ignored and pushed aside.

Now i know not everyone's like this i definitely do but having been cheated on twice and rejected more times then i can count it's just not worth the effort you may as well just focus on your life, job, dreams and let someone make an effort on you or a impression :)

[redeyemindtricks]

Yr right, of course -- these are all pretty unambiguous signs of non-interest (except MAYBE #1, which could just be #adhdgirl).

But honestly, for most guys, these would all be way, way easier to stomach than something more direct. I mean, let's be srs here -- how well would most men take it if a woman just put it right out there, "Sorry, I'm not feelin' you that way?"

Sure, SOME men would rather have that sort of closure (especially the kind of men who are bad at reading people and "reading between the lines"). But, I suspect most men would prefer to save face by getting indirect responses that at least preserve some plausible deniability.

[Izzex3]

I've done numbers 3, 4, 5, but not for the reasons you've listed.
Number 5 especially. When I say let me think about it.
I really mean let me think about. Sometimes I really mean to say no, but I am caught by surprise and wasn't expecting him to ask me that so those words just automatically come out.
Then later I have to tell them how I really feel ("No") once I calm down and think it over.
It's not because I like people admiring me like a puppy.
Numbers 6, 8, and 9 I've done and the reasonings you've listed are correct for those.
Overall it depends on the type of person your interested in and their personality.

[TheDevilInside]

The hard part is if everything is just friendly, without signs of being friend zoned either, but you have no idea whether there could potentially be romantic interest or not. He never talks about other girls as well. That's confusing

[Zombie-Killa]

Yeah, Being strung along always sucks.
The best what to tell is to judge their reactions when you flat out talk about a romantic relationship And pay attention to their eye contact. If someone likes you they will make solid eye contact, And might look away and blush if they are shy.
If they avoid eye contact and just look uninterested, Then they are uninterested.

[TheDevilInside]

But uninterested and shyness... They would look away in both cases

[Zombie-Killa]

Yeah, it's pretty easy to differentiate between shyness and uninterest, though.

[TheDevilInside]

In movies, sure lol IRL, not realy

[Zombie-Killa]

Yes, In real life too. The look goofy when they are infatuated, And generally have an impatient and cold demeanor when they are not interested.

[swedish91]

Well, dont waste time, just tell her flat out that you like her, your boldness might awake a spark in her anyways.

[Zombie-Killa]

@swedish91 Yeah, That would help a lot.

[TheDevilInside]

And if he rejects me, things would be painfully awkward between us

[brain5000]

We men need more Takes like this to help and support one another. Women have that kind of network, and I have been jealous forever. No more! Excellent Take my friend.

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks :D

[brain5000]

I thought of another one.

If her texts are open ended, you have an in. If she ends a text with the kind of phrasing that is used to end a conversation - "take care", "have a good day", "kthxbi" - that's not good. And yes, this has been used on me.

[Zombie-Killa]

Hopefully, it's that And you are not being stringed along.

[TheEncarnacion]

I had a girl tell me she wasn't ready for a relationship. So I said ok no problem. I started talking to another girl. The first girl then calls me up late at night one time extremely upset at me for talking to another girl, calling me a liar etc. Man girls are so confusing I don't even bother anymore.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Great take man! Ya these are solid points, if a girls does any of these guys, forget her name and move right along to the next one!

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks!
Yeah, A guy can really get hurt falling hard for a woman that won't ever love him back, And vice versa.

[Prof_Don]

Yup I agree with all of these. If she doesn't show interest back at me I presume she isn't interested.

Yet another reason why being AFRAID to approach girls is stupid. Being afraid of someone that is such high odds to be passive aggressive and cowardly about saying "i'm not interested"... is just silly, if u really think about it. 👌

[Southern_Shorty]

I'll admit it. 3 & 4 are spot on for me.

Overall, not too bad on the MyTake. I don't necessarily agree completely with all of it, but not too shabby.

[Zombie-Killa]

Thank you :)
And thanks so much for reading!

[DarkHumorRUs]

This is why I don't text if I can help it.
What if she's done number 5, but we ended up doing something anyway?

[Zombie-Killa]

Then you were just a piece of ass.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Okay, I haven't got that far, I meant, we hung out anyway.

[Zombie-Killa]

She wants you as a Man friend and an ego-boost, Probably nothing more.

[DarkHumorRUs]

so you're saying people who hang out never end up together

[Zombie-Killa]

Yeah, It's possible that they can. As long as both parties consider each other relationship material.

[Ericky]

you know dude, you have related so much truth that no girl dared to respond to you. lol

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks!

[MusicMayhem]

This was really good! I've had a couple of these before but not been 100% convinced of it... or didn't want to accept it haha!

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks :D

[Rcjh1987]

1,3 snd 4 for me that I've done I feel like a horrible person.

[Zombie-Killa]

Every woman that commented so far seems to have done them lol

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

At least you feel bad, lol. The girls who are proud of these things really make me lose hope on humanity

[jessi-chan]

1, 4, 7, 9, and 10 = spot on, and guilty.
Great myTake!
You're giving away our secrets ;)

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks! :D

[LittleSally]

All true but for different types of women. Nice mytake. =)

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks :D

[chriss]

i disagree everyone has different personalities these signs do not make sense. someone can just give short answers because they hate texting. you cannot really know unless the person tells you

[LittleSally]

@chriss Haha Not really... If they send you short messages with nothing nice in them - definitely don't like you...
Even if someone dislikes texting so much - they'd make the effort to make sure the other person knew they liked THEM - through text.

[JSmuve]

Solid stuff. If you hear any of these, throw her overboard and move on.

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks!

[Zorax]

Good Take, I can relate to that... especially 8, 9 and 10 :(

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks, Man :)

[Zorax]

You're welcome :)

[Anonymous]

I disagree with 1. I send my crush short texts like cool etc. That's because I dont have anything else to say.

But nice mytake

[Zombie-Killa]

Thanks :D

[yellowmamba024]

I have experienced all except for 8. Women are too much. Maybe that's why I never had a girlfriend.

[chriss]

i disagree everyone has different personalities these signs do not make sense. someone can just give short answers because they hate texting. you cannot really know unless the person tells you

[bloodmountain1990]

1 can be confusing. Sometimes a woman can be shy and send one word replies or just give generic responses