Age is Just a Number: Why My Relationship with a Man 15 Years Younger is Thriving (Against the Age Gap Odds)

[Anonymous]

If you'd told me just 2-3 years ago that not only would I be be engaged to a guy 15 years younger, but that it would be the best relationship I'd ever been in, and that I'd be pregnant with his child, I would have told you that you were absolutely insane. I never would have dreamed of even going on a date with someone more than 2 years younger. However, that's what's happening now.

I've learned that relationships with major age gaps can work incredibly well. However, a few things need to be in place in order for it to work out

1. Maturity Match Up-Dating someone you feel like is significant less mature isn't going to work out. It's true that 'age is just a number', but only if you're on a compatible maturity wavelength

2. Dream Alignment-Being on the same page in terms of kids is an obvious one. (I've always wanted more kids, so that wasn't an issue for us). However, your career goals (and other major life goals) have to be compatible too

3. Sparks in the Sheets-Different phases in life can potentially lead to different drives in bed. It's important to be be compatible in this area

4. Potential Power Imbalance- There's a good chance the older person in the relationship has more money and career status than the younger. That's fine in itself, but it can't turn into an unhealthy imbalanced power dynamic

5. Brushing off Judgement-You've got to understand that you're going to be judged pretty severely by some people (potentially including close family members) because of the age gap in your relationship. It can be very hurtful. However, you've got to learn to keep your head held high, not let the judgement get to you, and know that your love is what really matters

If you and your partner are compatible in all these areas (as is the cases with my fiance and me) then age truly is just a number.

So here's to defying expectations, embracing the unexpected, and proving that love knows no age!"

[Lolalue222]

Kudos to you! I am wishing you guys nothing but bliss, peace, and true love! 🙏🏽🤍 I am newly engaged and my fiancé and I have a 14 year age gap. I agree with everything you said. Age ain’t nothing but a number. It’s all about your maturity and what frequency you are vibrating on. I’ve always had an old soul and been mature for my age. I know plenty of older woman whose mindset is weak asf. I’ve always dated older men. I get that there are some actual creeps in these situations, and everyone is not capable of dating older. I however have had much better experiences dating older. Men my age never had anything to offer me. They also have not experienced life, and still need to get things out of their system. I’ve traveled solo and been on many adventures prior to meeting my fiancé. He is not the first older man I’ve dated, but certainly the best. I’ve obtained a lot of wisdom and knowledge from my previous relationships. We only have one life. Do what makes you happy and fu*k what anyone else has to say. It’s your life and you are the author. You can rewrite your story as many times as you like. What some people don’t understand, just isn’t for them to understand.

[myTake Owner]

Preach girl! If you get too caught up on age you could possibly miss the best relationship of your life!

I'm super happy for you and your fiance!

[JHAYES317]

@Lolalue222 age definitely is more than a number yeah there’s variability in maturity but the physical characteristics of a 24 year old and a 38 year old are vastly different

[zeitgeist057]

@JHAYES317 Vastly different?

[myTake Owner]

@JHAYES317 How are they 'vastly different'?

[At3mis24]

He's 14 younger than me, but he's my soulmate, I will never start again anything with an other man, because I only want him! Age doesn't matter if we are both adults!

[myTake Owner]

Are you talking about the guy you're with?

[Finchie40]

Yea I never held age as a deciding factor when I meet a beautiful girl that has chemistry and connection with me , now I am wise enough not to go for a girl under legal age of consent , but I have dated some girls that I had a huge age gap with , whether she was older or younger than me. So age doesn’t really determine if her and I are going to be good or bad for each other. I dating younger girls that were a lot more mature than girls’ my age or older , so that’s why age doesn’t really mean shit to me. All that matters is we both choose each other

[molonski2]

Good luck , but it won't work long term , what this kid is looking for is a mother , he is complete insecure , you will hit menopause if not prior , and you will realise this entire scenario is completely and utterly untenable.

Good luck with your silly boy , but you will need it , it will never work long term , but Ohh He loves this mother , what a complete joke , its a never ever , he's not a man.

[myTake Owner]

We definetly don't have a mother-son relationship.
If we did then it would be super gross. haha

He's not insecure

You're right that I will inevitably hit menopause one day (as all women do). However, I think our relationship will still be able to work out

[ManOnFire]

This Take gets my Seal of Approval, especially as a man who loves older women myself. Super hot that you're 15 years older than him. All of your points are correct, especially 3 and 5.

Older women are more mature and have some experience, they also make things much less awkward than younger women. There is a level of comfort you can have with a woman older than you, and that is what I prefer over "pretty and young."

[Avicenna]

The objections people make to so-called "age gap relationships" between consenting adults, as this thread indicates, can be really hilarious or even bizarre.

[jshm2]

It isn't about "age" but the legality of the matter and the expectations.

You will likely die before your partner and leave him a single father. Also, you think your child will be "happy" about that?

But you do you, I suppose.

[myTake Owner]

I'm 40 (and I take good care of myself physically). I've easily got another 45-50 (maybe even 55) years left

I'm not that old. haha

[RetroReviews]

I believe age gaps can work I always felt 15 years was probably the max limit I would consider because if you go much beyond that and it can kind of have a creepy feeling and couldn't couldn't see having much in common. But also the 15-year Gap has to be within reason for example of your 30 and he's 15 then no that's not right. But if he's an adult then that's okay I suppose

[hahahmm]

Age is just a number when you bother to keep yourself physically fit and/or you have an A+ top personality. But the higher score you have in both areas the more likely, "age is just a number". As you get older, your competition will only increase. Some people get lazy and think they don't have to work on being 'the one'. Good luck.

[Dongie]

He's the lucky one in my book. I always found quivering emotions around a sexy woman 18-20 years my senior. Even as a teenager. But I naturally thought at the time I would be laughed at just asking her out. I never found the nerve. Now for the past 15 years or so it's so common. I still want to find on good-looking 75 year old at my 61. I guess I be freaky but who cares.

[Twalli]

You also have to deal with the fact that you, as the female, is older. There's still societal sexism that says the man should be older or at the same age. My girlfriend and I get weird looks when people realize she's 5 years older than me. That's not a huge age gap, but she's still older by enough of a margin that makes people think.

[myTake Owner]

Believe me, I get that. We've had to deal with a whole lot of judgement since openly being together.

It was pretty hard at first, but I eventually got to the point where it doesn't bother me much.

In fact, sometimes it can be kind of fun. If we're ever in a group of people where I can tell we're being judged I'll often grab his butt and give a long, sexy, passionate kiss. The reaction is priceless. haha

[Anonymous]

I was dating a guy who was 15 years older and I loved it so much. But instead of him telling me he was actually 15 years older, he blocked me once I was "about to find out". I swear, he was the most loving guy. Really cannot understand how things escalated like this, cause I would have loved being his partner.

[zeitgeist057]

Fear is the mind killer.

[exitseven]

I never thought that age was such a big deal. I dated an older woman for a while and we had a great relationship. I suppose if an 80 year old millionaire marries a 25 year old Dallas Cowboys cheerleader I might be a little suspicious

[1millonlies]

I mean I think it’s fine, as long as the other person isn’t in their early twenties. At that age they are still growing and understanding the world. I would say mid and up is definitely ok.

[madewithingredients]

question: if you had to choose one of these two labels, do you consider yourself conservative or progressive?

[myTake Owner]

I'm honestly pretty moderate.

Maybe I'm a tad more progressive though

[LiamJHayden]

I am the same way. The best relationship I had was when I was 24. She was 41. It was great, but her friends and family got the better of her with the "robbing the cradle" nonsense.

[PeachyPie93]

Well it seems odd because men always want younger and prettier people but hopefully it all works out and you have a happy family.

[At3mis24]

I hope you're wrong (I love a younger one)

[PeachyPie93]

@At3mis24 I hope so too, I think maybe just the guys in this community have rotted my brain lol

[strateguy632]

depends but after age 30, gap is meaningless

[myTake Owner]

Why do you think the age gap is meaningless after age 30?

[Anonymous]

At that age it's unlikely he knows who he is spiritually. That is the real determiner of whether the relationship will last, much more than age.

[Anonymous]

Happy to hear it's working out for you! And congrats on the pregnancy 😊

[Alessandra111295]

Congratulations as long you’s happy and consenting adults. F those who have problem with it. My Wife got 11 years on me were happy. Enjoy learning from each other experiences.

[Anonymous]

Damn, that will be like dating a child. Good luck with that.

[myTake Owner]

That's what I thought at first. When things started out I wasn't willing to give him a real chance because I assumed it would be like dating a child. However, after I gave opened up and decided to give him a real shot I found out he's super mature (more so than some of my exes I dated who were my age). When I'm around him I don't notice a maturity difference.

I get that with a lot of other guys his age it would be like dating a child. However, with him it's not like that at all

[At3mis24]

He's 27 not a child, so it doesn't matter!

[FuqUFggt]

Hell yeah. When I was 20 I loved old women. Some couldn't get pregnant and the ones that did had townies and they are hilarious

[myTake Owner]

You definetly sound like the kind of guy who shouldn't be dating older women

[FuqUFggt]

You sound like the type of young women that have to be lesbians because men won't fuck you

[myTake Owner]

Believe me, I'm getting plenty of action from my man

Probably more action than you're getting

[FuqUFggt]

Not sure how anything you said has anything to do with what i said. Not really trying to over think what a person with extra chromosomes says but I'm sure your husband is a real creep for fucking a downie more than once a day...

[Anonymous]

I see more old/older guys with young arses than this and when I do, I think an excuse is just a preference.