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I've been with my boyfriend almost 2 years and 5 months now.
( we both are 27) I know he is trying to be a nice guy to me and actually he is.. well.. sort of. There are some minor problems like all of relationships have. I am not a perfect girl and I don't push my man to be a perfect guy. However, I seriously don't understand him sometimes. He loves his parents too much. IT'S REALLY GOOD THING. I don't blame him about this. The problem is that their parents do something ridiculous.

First, they have too much debts and my boyfriend is the only one who earns money in his family. (his younger brother is a trouble maker in his family, but he is in army now) He works from 7 am to 9~10pm every day. He only sleeps a couple of hours. He doesn't have any day-off which means he has no time to hang out with me. He comes to my home to see my dogs&me and sleep for few hours. Since he has 2 jobs to pay off the parents debts, I feel very lonely. My mom passed away last winter, so maybe it was just horrible timing for me. Also, he's been having some health problems and it's getting worse due to overwhelmed working. MOREOVER, his mother used to like taking pictures. Who doesn't like taking pictures, by the way? She enrolled a college to study for it. It sounds awesome, but who will pay for the tuitions? ... Yes... my boyfriend.

In short, his parents have no jobs but increase their debts. Now, they are planning to buy a house in Miami. You can assume what they expect to my boyfriend... HORRIBLE. Well if my boyfriend thinks it is a problem, nothing bothers me. However, he thinks everything is his responsibility. My boyfriend doesn't earn so much. I pay for every things when we meet. (If we go to a market, he put some items he needs and I pay, and takes it to his home)

He is my boyfriend, not my husband. It's very exhausted to keep this relationship. If his parents' problems can be solved, i think there will be no problem between us. What can I do for this situation?

I broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years over a month ago because he was calling me horrible names and being very disrespectful towards me. I was sick of putting up with it and I dumped him. He was practically living with me (stayed with me 6-7 days a week and had a TON of stuff at my house, enough to live on, but had some stuff at his mom's house too). After this, we decided to try again and he has been great about not repeating ANY of the bad behavior that made me dump him in the first place but he has been pouty and butthurt about the fact that I dumped him. Right now we're dating exclusively, but have not officially become "boyfriend and girlfriend" again. We have been meaning to have a serious discussion about what we want and what we can expect from each other for like 3 weeks now, but he keeps putting it off. He freaks out if i expect "too much" from him (like basic communication), gets angry that I dumped him in the first place, and tells me i don't respect him because I won't "give him time" to work on himself and get all his "shit settled." I keep bringing up the fact that if we're actually going to move on and be together again, we need to have this talk and stop messing around in limbo. He keeps having important things to finish first (granted they are important, but he seems to have plenty of time for his friends/family and NEVER has time to have this one conversation). I've told him this makes me feel like his last priority and he swears that's not true, but we still haven't had the conversation. I don't know what to do. Do I keep asking? Do I wait and see if he brings it up? Part of me thinks he'll never bring it up and we'll just continue indefinitely in this strange half-relationship where I have NO IDEA what I'm allowed to expect from him (apart from monogamy). It's driving me crazy and making me resent him. What do I do?