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I'm so frustrated and really need male insight! First of all I am an attractive woman in my late 20's who is a med student. Never had any trouble getting the guys I wanted. So one of my classmates is a guy who is very attractive to me and is also a friend. He and I have always been a little *ahem* cozier than most friends would be, plus he does sweet things like tell me that I look great and hold doors for me. Honestly, it's obvious that he's liked me as more than a friend for a while. It took me some time to catch up, but recently I realized that I'm into him in a sexual way.

One recent night when we were out we finally started making out. It was seriously steamy although it didn't go further because I had to go home. Flirty/dirty texting ensued in the following days and I have decided that I totally want him as friends with benefits . I am super busy and just do NOT want a "relationship" and I know he knows that. From the sound of things, he doesn't want a relationship either. I value his friendship and I believe that friends with benefits can be just that, especially including the "friends" part. I have successfully done this with a classmate before and it was great; hush-hush at school with no drama.

But here's the problem: he seems to have low self-esteem and doubts that I am attracted to him! So, we haven't actually hooked up yet and it is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do besides just bonk him over the head and say come on let's f*&@!! But I hate to "chase" a guy because that seems tacky and desperate to me. Or are the rules for getting a guy friend as a friends with benefits different from the rules for actually dating? Because if I knew it wouldn't totally turn him off I would just ask him "when are you going to take me home with you?"

Please guys, what is his deal and what should I do? PS--I don't like random hookups because there is no mental/intellectual challenge there, like there is with a guy friend that you know and respect.

We hooked up once after a party (he was drunk, I wasn't) but then he got my number and we texted for a day or so until he told me to text him the next day but I didn't because he was drunk and I thought he really didn't mean it. He texted me again a couple days later asking me school question (he has friends in our class he could've asked tho) Now (About a week after we made out) we're just in school together and things aren't really awkward bc we said they wouldn't be but we don't talk much anyway bc we don't have similar friends or anything (only in 2/7 classes together). So now I want to ask him to hook up with me sometime (either in school or after) and I don't know how to exactly go about this.
I think he might want to but I don't know for sure.
The night we made out, after he got my number, he said he wouldn't mind this happening again and that anything can happen, but he was drunk so again I didn't really take it seriously.
Also I want nothing more than random hookups from this but I don't want to seem like a "hoe"
Hookup = Make out in this scenario