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I can't believe I fell in love with this guy, he was my boyfriend and I was reading a lot about narcissism & he matches a lot of the info. I guess sadly we all have to have bad experiences in life. Its been more than a year & I still feel love for him but hate him too because he treats me like dirt. We had a long distance relationship at first, he was so sweet, charming, good looking. He made me feel so special/important, said he couldn't live without me. I brokeup with him & I didn't mean too its just the ldr was hard for me I couldn't see him much. He said he understands but continues to hurt me. He had many failed relationships before, he refers women to bitches/hoes on his fb statuses never to my face. After the breakup I did everything to try get him back, I was proving my love for him, wanted to travel far where he was to be with him. He just let me go & didn't fight for us. then he started looking for other girls right away. I told him many times how much he hurt me Because he ignores me alot, how I cry & can't sleep then he says sorry, promises he won't do it again then does it. he's happy when I'm depressed & broken, he's angry when I'm happy and moving on. that's not love at all:(. how can I be in trouble for caring about him?. No one else hurts me only him. He even had broken friendships and family problems. He doesn't take responsibility for his actions and blames others. Has problems with drugs, & drinks alot. His dad was the same as him & had a suicide. Guess he had a bad childhood, he gets into fights with ppl, told me he's in a gang. Every picture he has is him and he keeps saying he so good looking, etc. very selfish boy. He just gives me the silent treatment I don't even deserve it. Other people console me when I'm hurt, even my other ex boyfriend lol. I wrote him a very long page love letter but nothing. he even posted a YouTube video saying "im a monster". he gets his friends to spy on me on fb lol, or talk to me sometimes. if I ignore him even for 10 min he gets so mad. He disappears for many months, years but comes back when he feels like it then hurts me again. I'm gonna ignore his ass like crazy. has anger issues. he didn't even thank me for his birthday wish but I thanked him for mine I almost didn't.

does he sound like a narcissist?

My ex-boyfriend ended our three-month relationship about three weeks ago. In a nutshell, he has become overwhelmed with school and work. He acknowledged that he still has feelings for me and that I'm the best girlfriend he has ever had, but also that I'm not "the one" he's willing to sacrifice other aspects of his life for.

Initially, I took it well. I was incredibly miserable for about two weeks, then we re-established contact. But I relapsed and told him I could never see or talk to him again.

He reacted very strongly, as if I had broken up with him, and quickly contacted me asking me to talk to him again. I gave in pretty easily... and we have been back to friends.

As friends, we flirt. We "click" just as well as we used to. We're happy, we laugh, we even make jokes about our old relationship. Frequently, he tells me how much he misses me and how sometimes he pretends I'm next to him to feel better. He's getting a new car, and he's always telling me how excited he is to drive me around and hang out with me. I have trained myself now to ignore his advances, and sometimes to even reprimand him.

Once I got really pissed he kept sending me sappy love songs and said, "Either get back together with me or shut up." and he said "I'll shut up." I've made it clear that a physical relationship of any kind other than a long-term commitment is out of the question.

Well... here's the thing. I know I'm not over him, but I really enjoy his friendship and don't want to go NC. BUT, recently I've started crying over him again, and today I got really, really angry realizing that I wrote him love letters and poems, but he has never given me a single piece of personalized writing.

So...

Should I tell him how I've realized that he never was a good boyfriend and I'm glad we broke up... and then cut off contact.

OR

Should I tell him that, but maintain contact because we're friends now and it doesn't matter to me anymore if he's a good boyfriend or not.