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I don't understand why people need to assert their self-worth and their "congruence with their gender and self-identity" via 'acting more womanly' and/or 'being more manly'.

Technically, if you were born with XX chromosomes with proper genes and stuff, you're female. If you were born with XY chromosomes with proper genes and stuff, you're male.

No matter what you do, you're still the sex that you were born with.

So why care about how your behavior is perceived by some archaic cultural imperatives, when you can be who you want to be? Why assert your self-worth through broken concepts, why resort to the division of social genders, and why enforce behavior patterns on children to "brainwash them" into being "proper Men/Women"?

This whole idea is silly to me. The reason why I ask this question is based on the notion that "a guy must be taller than a girl, so that the girl feels properly feminine". Why? What does even feeling "feminine" mean? Congruence with social standards? Why can't you be who you are? Why can't you just thrive to be the best person you can be, no matter how "masculine" or "feminine" that is perceived?

I think this notion makes us be held down and bogged down in a series of traditions, rather than properly progress as people.

Check out this site:
www.plannedparenthood.org/.../...dentity-26530.htm

"Gender roles are the way people act, what they do and say, to express being a girl or a boy, a woman or a man. These characteristics are shaped by society."

"Feminine traits are ways of behaving that our culture usually associates with being a girl or woman."

"What Are Gender Stereotypes?
A stereotype is a widely accepted judgment or bias regarding a person or group — even though it is overly simplified.[...] This is called sexism."

People should be who they are. Act like they naturally would. Be the best they can. Not be bogged down by silly concepts , broken ones.

Started talking to her a week and a half ago. To sum it up:

-Talked to girl off dating site and IMMEDIATELY hit it off
-We have a lot of the same passions, and moral values
-She has openly expressed interest in me
-We have already talked about future plans (like going to see a concert, going to a gaming convention, etc)
-We have not met (yet)
-We used to text all day every day
-we both closed our dating profiles for eachother

My problem:
Lately our conversations have died down a bit. I do openly and strongly flirt with her and she responds back neutral (when i asked her about it she said she's shy). She doesn't make that strong of an effort to reply to me, sometimes i have to double or even triple text. Sometimes i have to carry the conversation too, and have to be the one to initiate

When we game together, she's not too flirty and if anything is busy with her friends

All of these are classic signs of "she's not into you" BUT when i asked her about this, cause i like to be upfront with my feelings, she assured me she likes me and "you're not gonna lose me"

TLDR:
-I have to do everything/initiate everything
-Seems uninterested but openly said she IS interested

Am I rushing things/expecting too much? is this normal behavior?