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You are the network administrator for a rather large company. You have a young family and need your job to support them. Part of your responsibility as a network administrator is to monitor the emails for the organization. Usually this just means occasionally allowing through emails for staff members that have been accidentally blocked by the spam filters.

One day you get a helpdesk request from a staff member asking for an email to get released. Normally it’s standard procedure, except this time the request has come from the spouse of a very good friend of yours. You recognize the name on the helpdesk request so quickly attend to the problem. As part of the procedure you need to manually open up the email to ensure that it isn’t actually spam. You find that it turns out to be an email to your friend’s spouse from their lover. You scan the rest of the contents of the email and there is no doubt that they have been having an affair for some time now.

You release the email, but you can’t decide what to do now. Your initial reaction is to call your friend up and tell them about the email, however you quickly realize that company policy is very strict about revealing the contents of staff emails, and you will certainly lose your job if your boss finds out.

In any case you know that revealing this information presents great risk, because even if you don’t do it directly, there is a good chance that the dots will be joined somewhere along the line and you will be found out. However you feel that by not telling your friend you are helping their spouse to get away with adultery and this troubles you greatly.

What should you do?

(This was adapted from a moral question I was asked the other night.)

I love/care my wife more than I do to anybody else, but I'm not in love with her for few years.
from last year me and my wife having problem and our relationship had changed.

4 months ago, I met a lady who is interested in me and from that day we been going out and talk every day. She is in love with me and I am, too. She desires me and I love it. Now she knows that I am married and have a kid, she cried and told me she will wait till I separate my wife, then she will be with me.

my wife knew this affair whole time and yesterday she told me that she still loves me, willing to forgive me and wants to rebuild our relationship, because the love we build together 10 years is stronger than the love I found in the cafe 4 months ago. But my action is disrespectful to her and our kid so if I don't end an affair right now, she will file the divorce. She told me its up to me to choose my wife or girlfriend.

I love and respect my wife. I dont think I can find a person like her who has a nice heart and she is the only person I trust. But I'm not in love with her, I see her as my family.
but this lady, I love her, want to be with her. It hurts to think that I can't see/ talk to her anymore.
i think about her everyday and cry. I think she is a nice lady but part of me can't trust her 100%.
im not sure if she is gonna cheat on me or leave me after we became official and I'm afraid of that. My wife won't cheat on me or leave me because I know she is faithful.

should I stay with my wife and kid, end an affair and cry about what I lost and keep thinking "what kind of life I was gonna have if I stay with this girlfriend?" Or
divorce with my wife and be with girlfriend, visit my kid sometimes and be happy?