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So long story cut kinda short: I've known him since I was about 12 (now 19 & he is now 25), he is one of my brothers long term friends (brother is 24), I've always had a positive relationship with him growing up (we shared a lot of holiday dinners together at eachothers houses, went out & did stuff with my brother and his friends when i was a little older, he'd always come over to my house etc.)...

i moved out of state when i was 17 for college. We stayed in touch but weren't very close. recently on a trip i made back home to visit my brother we hooked up & had a really awesome weekend. i went back home & we stayed in touch via snap chat, fb, Skype, & text... i flew out to see him a month later. we had another awesome weekend together. everytime we're together we do so much awesome stuff... we eat at fancy resteraunts, have awesome sex, and just go out and do stuff. on the last trip i brought up what he thought of us & he just said i don't know but it gives me anxiety thinking about putting a label on us... he isn't in a relationship & got out of a long term relationship in January. he has told me multiple times that he is only seeing me & isn't going to see anyone but i told him that i wouldn't want to continue seeing him if he didn't see the possibility for more... he just said that i don't have to see him. i'm flying out to see him in a month & i'm going to see how it goes before i buy another ticket to see him in August. (he also buys my tickets etc.) but after that talk he seemed to kinda shut down... he doesn't seem as "all over me" as before and is kinda cold sometimes.

i don't know if I said something wrong. he still flirts with me on snapchat/text often but i asked him about flying out in August & asked him when he was free so i could buy a ticket to visit & he just said I don't know it's your life...
i feel like he just doesn't want to see me anymore?

My boyfriend knew this girl in year 12 and she moved back to her country. She messaged him 8 months into our relationship and since then (we've been together 1.5 years) they've had 6 facebook conversations. I said to him that I'm more important not someone who lives on the other side of the world, and cos i don't like that she's a girl, he shouldn't stay in contact with her. He said that they've always kept in contact since 2012, he said sometimes they wouldn't talk for months, then they'd talk for a week and so on, there's been no flirting and she was also friends with is ex. He says that he can't just neglect her because she's a female and she doesn't have bad intentions & its also nice to keep in contact. He said i can always read their messages if i like. I got very offended when she messaged him like twice within 10 days because in my mind i think "why does she think its ok to message MY boyfriend." their convos normally last 2-3 days as there is a 9 hour time difference so its not like they speak ALL day and eventually the convo ends. Do u think that someone can just be genuinely nice and want to stay in contact? maybe she thinks I'm nice and chilled so she doesn't think its a big deal to occasionally chat or catch up on life. He's only ever messaged her first TWICE in 1.5 years. Once it was about tennis which created a convo, then the second time he sent her an article about her country. So you do guys think its okay to keep in contact with someone over Facebook messenger and from time to time have a conversation with them