Why do specifically Asian girls single me ( A black female) out or try to get any male attention I get?

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a diverse place and had Asian friends but moving to the city I am just surprised, I think its a cultural thing that I am not understanding and have not experienced with other women, once a south Asian woman

I am a black woman, apparently I'm attractive, dark skin... I find it crazy that I've gotten so many Asian women, when I am out with white men mostly, but even black guys too, Asian guys, try to rub up and flirt with my guy... in a FULL bar, with loads of other women and their dates. For example a karaoke bar, one of the korean bar tenders a young wmoan, when I sang a song and the crowd cheered... while on duty, the bartender looked mad at me grabbed the second microphone and tried to sing over me?

And no one else this happened too that night.. so I am there confused... and my friends were confused too? And their manager gave me and my friends free drinks...

I notice when I'm out with my friend who is a white man, the women will stare at me... and then try and make eye contact with the guy and flirt with my date... Or even with another Asian guy who was chatting me up at the bar. And sometimes when I go into this Japanese place, the women would give me the dirtiest looks. Once, my order was ready and one chinese girl actually flicked her head over to my food as if i was a dog to go and get it, and the white guy in front of me looked back insulted for me and as confused as I was.

In this city see Asians as a priveleged minority with way more privelege than me and even as white people, here in the city sometimes, and I find it crazy and I do not understand the phenomena, its not white women, other black women, but Asian women? I also have brown skin, so I would think if anything they would pity me lol but many times these women dont seem to be from america... I Im not the only black woman in the room and its really creepy that this happens A LOT in the city. I am surprised because most of the white people here LOVE Asians so I am like ok... lol

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Answer : Racism, how dare I, be a pretty black girl.

[AndyConnor]

Asians can be weird sometimes. I'm a white male and I find black women attractive, but there aren't many Asian women out and about like let's say New York. I'm from the south so there aren't really people walking around too much unless you go to major cities or tourist attractions, but even then there aren't any Asian people. They're probably just jealous, especially if you after their race of people

[jasbell]

They're most likely just jealous (coming from an Asian girl) I may not have grown up with Asian parents, but i know when i see a guy i like with another girl, i get jealous. it seems weird, but i think it's a cultural thing? i'm not 100% sure though. just be nice to them. you don't want to seem rude in front of your date.

[Asker]

Apparently it is both jealousy and racism, I will be out with average looking guys

[jasbell]

it's not racism, most likely, they probably do it to others, but you might not realize it.

[NyomiMcClinton]

Other races naturally feel like they look better than black women. So when an attractive black female walks in the room who looks good, other races dont like that. They want you to look unattractive so nobody will not look at you so they can get all the attention.

[Asker]

Omg you're so pretty! @.@ Pretty black girl problems.. Have you dealth with this before? I was surprised and hurt because the beauty standards for other women is so low compared to us. How do you deal? I am on the petite end too, so its difficult lol. I'm just like why won't people leave me alone...

[mersteriosity]

this was so confusing. What I got was, you are attractive and people are jealous?

[Asker]

I guess, but Asian women specifically and only come out of no where and try to take my dates... they dont do this to attractive white women, and treat me really poorly sometimes. Its never all Asian women, I think its just the racist ones who are not really American because I have friends who are Asian, and they are great. Other women never try to do things like that, and I think its weird that they won't bother other women in the room but me, and I am not the only pretty person lol.

[Asker]

I find it weird to try to flirt with my dates? my dates are ok looking xD or my friends look normal so I find it weird, its like they dont even want my friend? its more like because my friend is with me.

[Loveherbut]

They are rude just tell them to back off

[Asker]

I can't because its like making eye contact with my date flippping hair and trying to get their attention and then looking away, but their attention is on my date, and i see them looking at them from the bar. And If I do anything I seem like a jerk or look bad they try to play it off

. So not sure how to deal when it happens... i never care so much to do that to women even though i could. It will be a guy checking me out and then a girl sees this comes stands infront of me and starts flipping her hair.. I dont think it can be helped men like attention from women even if they did not catch their eye.

[Kurodo]

Petty people.