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ok, so at first I didn't want to date him because he was big headed, obnoxious and childish. But now that he's changed I've fallen for him... it's just that everyone freaks out at the thought of me dating him. I mean he's rough around the edges yes, but he's soft on the inside... like a slightly overdone cookie. For the people who have just tasted the burnt outside it's terrible but once you get into the soft, chewy middle it's delicious, addictive even.

I told him that we would be friends with benefits and myself that I was to agree to date him if he was less big headed.

The funny thing is, he's become more than just less big headed, he's begun to like me for me and not just my looks. In the past two weeks he's become much more than a boy, he's transformed into a man in my eyes.

Regardless to the rest of the world he is still a boy, they haven't yet found the soft spot.

And the thing is I've begun to have a soft spot for him too. He's just transformed from when I first met him and he was so shallow to this.

But should I date him? Whenever I hint that I may have feelings for him someone says (negatively) "eww... you aren't dating him are you?"

People accept it after they realize how much I do like him but I'm not sure about all the negative vibes I'll get from people when they find out...

Okay, I just had to ask.

Now. don't get me wrong, I don't think all women like jerks. I myself am married to a nice guy and so are my female friends (But I tend to hang around mature, more intellectual women I guess,and they like men who offer more than good looks and sex alone).

I think a lot of it has to do with immaturity and the misguided idea that you can change someone. Just as men feel that being able to land a hot babe says something about his masculinity, a woman may feel she has something going on if she can tame a bad boy. Sad thing is, both are shallow victories that don't mean anything and show a bit of insecurity.

I will admit that I dated some doozies in my day, however, they never indicated they were a-holes to begin with, and if I had seen that side, I would have run like my pants were on fire, in fact, when they showed their true colors, I left every time, no pause or apologies.

I was looking for a genuine nice guy and finally found, and married him.

I find his courtesy, care and sensitivity very sexy and I said in one post--I don't have to beg him to leave the seat down or take out the trash--he is courteous, loving and a great father.

I am soooo lucky and blessed.

But I am dismayed that there are some girls on here who not only seek out bad boys, they stay with them even knowing they won't change. There is a young lady on here who has a baby with a man who only comes around for sex and treats her like dirt--AND SHE WANTS HIM BACK--what the heck?

I would cuss a guy like that out and set about raising said kiddo myself to spare them the drama and dysfunction.

For her, I think it is a self esteem issue, but I do wonder why I see a trend where certain girls chase after guys with obvious bad intentions and who stick round for mental and emotional abuse?

Why do these women like such types?