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For some reason I really like Wreck it Ralph because growing up I always identified with the bad guy. My mom and sister would always treat me like I was the bad guy, I cooked, cleaned, and did the most work and they took all my "clothes" and stuff that was given to me by friends, and they always made fun of how "ugly" and "undesirable" I was. It was like "no one likes you, you should go kill yourself, you're lower than dog poop" all my life. They stole from me, demanded me be their slaves and never shared with me and always assumed I was selfish, evil and mean. They on the other hand was always the pure, good one who did no wrong (my mom mentally, physically and psychologically abused me but she was always justified in her eyes, my sister did the same to me along with stealing someone else's husband, breaking and stealing and having a child out of wedlock and being so awful her "friends" always kicked her out of their houses to live on the street with a newborn). Needless to say my mom and sister think they are super righteous and holy, and the mother teresa of their time. I'm supposedly the most evil and awful person ever born.

I spend most of my life being a good mom, wife and friend and reading tons of self help books to better my moral, character, social skills, nonviolent communication, and empathy factor. I try to read about 12 books a year and always attending classes on how to become a better person because obviously I'm the most evil person ever born.

For some reason I find that there is a sense of right and wrong, and my sister said "what are you? the family police?"

Things that I consider right or wrong:
1. beating up your mom and almost killing her (youngest brother, YB)
2. purposely stealing someone else's husband from his wife and kids (sister did this, S)
3. Judging someone as less than human if you have to allow them to stay in your house but if they stay in your house you better treat them like a KING (YB)
4. buying stuff to just return right away after you have used it for a week (YB)
5. thinking you are better or more important than someone, and therefore they need to worship you and give you all their money (YB)
6. demanding someone service, like they live with you and they want you to go buy them coffee, clean their clogged toilet and also give them 1000 a month (no they are not paying rent, and no they are not helping with chores or anything) (Middle brother, MB)
7. stealing 200,000 from your parents (YB, and MB)
8. demanding that someone do everything for you, just because you exist (YB, MB, S)
9. cheating on your spouse whom you have a child with (S)
10. having a child out of wedlock with some guy who is married and has kids, breaking into a whole bunch of motels and also doing all this just to piss your parents off...(S)

Any of these do you find immoral or right or wrong? Or do you think all of this is just ok as long as you feel good about it? ofcourse it is all right to my siblings AND my parents, because they ALLOW these things to happen! They encourage it, and tell me to STFU because if I say anything then it will taint our "family" therefore just be quiet and I'm the crazy, evil, psycho one... because I don't steal money, beat up my parents, and cheat on my spouse and steal a spouse from his wife and kids.

What do you find right or wrong? Or is there no such thing, as long as it feels good?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We met when I was a freshman and he was a senior in Highschool. But after a few months of dating we both had to move. Long distance has been really rough for me. We talk every single day. But I feel like I've distanced myself a little and dont feel the same. I still love him but I dont know how much longer I can do long distance. We will at least have another 4 years apart. Which is a long time for long distnace. The thing is I dont want to break up. He has become such a central part of my life I can't imagine not being with him. I tried breaking up once a few weeks ago but quickly regretted it and changed my mind. He and I connect in many ways, more than I've ever connected with anyone before. But there's also many things that we are different about. But I guess that's normal. My parents dont like me dating him. And so, so far we have only been able to visit once for almost 3 days a few months back. When he visited things felt comfortable but I didn't have the spark that I was expecting to have like what we used to have back when we lived near each other. And the fact of being apsrt but still dating makes it really tough. Because I'm a physical person. And so I want to be able to do physical things. But I can't, and I can't go look for that contact from anyone else because I'm in a relationship with him, but can't touch him.
I don't know of I should break up and hope to get over him and move on. Then I wouldn't have the pain of being unavle to be with him because of focus on moving on.
Or I could stay with him, and hope in a few years time things will work out and we can be with eachother permanently.
I've been struggling with making a decision for months. I can't come to a conclusion and I need help deciding. I've talked to him about it and he says its up to me. My friends here say they think I'd be happier if I broke up with him and tried to find someone closer. Thoughts?