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I am so in love with this girl. we connect in every dynamic. we have the same faith, political outlook, hobbys, she's beautiful and is so loving to me. she needs attention because she didn't get enough love as a child. i love her. she openly has a lust problem but not a sexual one. she seeks attention from others, even who she doesn't have feelings for. she gives me all HER attention. however... she dated a guy for a year, broke it off because she wasn't in love with him. they are still friends. i am not remotly threatened by him, there's been times when he drops her off to me. quite frankly i feel bad for the guy.

after she broke up with him she dated a guy last summer and broke it off because his financial situation was awful and after she brought it up to him, he wiged out and yelled at her sayiong to never talk again. she also mentioned he had the emotional maturity of a 15 year old. she said she was over it but the fact that she let her guard down really burned. thery dated for 2 months and she told me she really liked him...

she told me the other night he text her saying he was getting married, and she then said she was thinking "i bet your fiance doesn't apopreciate that" he was just kidding and she said thats exactly what she ment by the emotional 15 year old. i never got out of her what the end of the conversatioon was like.

i dont like the idea that she is with me but entertaining her ex as a friend and now this 15 year old also. she has a way of shuting people out because she's so soft on the inside and armor on the outside, she will lock her feelings and throw the key away. if i push her away to demand some respect, she may never return.

i met her last December, 3 months ago or so. she has tried to run from her feelings but always comes back to me. im nuts about her. im 28 and I've had many girlfriends. i dont know why i am tolerating this, but sometimes i feel like i am taking too much. being that she locks he

Need some relationship guidance and advise..

I met this girl over the summer, everything was going well, met her family and she met mine shortly after.. everything was progressing really fast but felt right. right before I left for a month long vacation she said she wants to get to know me better and as more then just friends. Two days in a row while on vacation I didn't message her and she got distant from then. Once I got back I asked her officially out and she ended up saying she couldn't commit and didn't feel the connection and wanted to be friends - I initially said yes, but then went No Contact, but only for 2 weeks.

I started texting and tried to build up the attraction again - this went for about a month and I met up with her. However I brought up the relationship and what had happened for her to go cold (my mistake) As soon as I did she backed away more and said she needed time to be normal with me again.

A week after, I reached out and said let's just be friends and she agreed. She was still however distant and barely texting back - 1 response back every few days - I asked her why - she said she was really busy.

This week, I tried calling a few times in a row and texted her to meet up - she didn't pick up nor has she responded. Complete silence.

Background on Her:
-she's been super hurt in the past and runs away when things get serious
-she was in a seriously relationship 5 years ago and hasn't been with anyone since (3 years so far)
-She's protecting her self from getting hurt again (self-preservation)
-we only talked for a few months and weren't really boyfriend / girlfriend.
-I never kissed her
-she definitely had strong feelings for me before I left on vacation
-she likes attention and flirts a lot
-I think she might be playing the field a bit

What is my best approach for one day having a relationship with her?

1) Should I text her saying that I'll give her time and wait until she contacts me?
2) Should I go no contact on her for a month or two and then reach out?
3) Should I ask her what she wants and go with it?
4) Should I try to be friends so she can trust me without being scared and hopefully bring down that wall that she now has up.

I know she's worth it and will do anything right now to increase my chances to one day be with her. I know I made mistakes - this situation is just tricky and I really don't know what to do.