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So my boyfriend has cheated on my in the beginning of our relationship. He was in another relationship and had sex with her. He also was asking other girls to be his girlfriend and made out with another girl while dating me. He had phone sex. I caught him and now he is changing his behavior. He went to therapy and gave me access to his accounts. The thing that worries me is now he isn’t putting any effort in the relationship. He won’t call me iniate any conversations first. Won’t fly out to see me because he’s saying he’s broke and doesn’t have the money. He doesn’t iniate anything sexual and he always has an excuse. He said he’s withdrawing because of how much I mistrust him. He did this to his ex girlfriend too. He said he did to her because he didn’t care and that he’s doing it to me because I’m mistreating him and making him feel like I’m going to abandon him. Should I trust by now or am I giving good reasons not to trust him?

I'm doing another Fourth Step (My Moral Inventory), except this time my Sponsor has me listing my Morals. She said how is it we do a complete Honest Moral Inventory without first Listing what Our Moral Beliefs are. And then I have to write How Harshly I Judge Others on these Morals and then have I Honored them as Strongly as I've Judged Others on them?

My Morals:

Do Not Lie, Always Be Honest -- I spent a Lifetime Lying to everyone but especially Myself and Condemning those I caught in Lies.
Keep Your Promises -- Another One I failed at but if you broke a Promise to me or someone I care about there was a Price to Pay
Do Not Cheat -- Broke this one with almost every boyfriend, it was my way of getting away from the healthy guys. But when I knew of someone cheating on a friend oh I made sure everyone knew what they did.
Be Patient -- Patience was always a problem for me, but would preach Patience to everyone else.
Take Responsibility for Your Actions -- I was putting the Blame on everyone thing that ever happened to me in my life, yet expected others to Accept and Admit Responsibility for their actions. The funny thing about the Word BLAME remove the ME just have Bla Bla Bla...
GOLDEN RULE aka Treat Others as You Want to be Treated -- This One Honestly I did Honor. You're thinking how the hell can this Bitch say this? I Treated People like Shit, so They Would Treat me like Shit, I didn't think I was Worth Love and Kindness.

Those were and are still My Moral Beliefs, the difference now is I do my Best to Live by those Morals and NOT JUDGE OTHERS Actions. Not Judging Orhers is a New Moral I've taken, not Perfect at it but Progress Not Perfection!!!