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We have been together for 1.5 years. No kids/not married. Still live with our parents. I'm 19 she's 18. It's only been about 3 months but it's starting to get to me. She got her first job in February (which is around when this began). Since then, she puts no effort into our kisses, cuddling, She never wants to have sex anymore, etc... We have had sex only 2 or 3 times the last 3 months. We used to have sex 5+ times a week.

Everytime I try to initiate sex, she either subtly turns me down or says she's too tired. I hate sounding needy but I'm starting to get sexually frustrated. Like I said before, it's her first job (part time) so she might not be used to the work thing yet, but I work a full time construction job and make almost 3x the hours she makes, I'm tired AF when I get home but I ALWAYS make time for her (even if she doesn't seem to appreciate it anymore). I hate saying this but I have been considering letting her go. I don't want to break up because of sex but I just don't feel wanted.

The only thing that's holding me back is that I love her with all my heart. She says she does too. But it doesn't feel like it. I have been fighting for us so hard but she seem to be not attracted to me. Maybe she loves me but isn't attracted to me? I don't know but it really hurts me

I started to develop interest in understanding people which lead to this question. It came out of wanting to understand my own behaviors... I'm straight.. but I have my recurring patterns. But I've been friends with gay, worked with and for gay/lesbian, and I've meet some T people along the way.

Can you relate to any part of this man's story and see patterns of abuse in your own life? I wonder if there are common threads that lead to ones self image being damaged? http://www.ibelongamen.com/meet-david-arthur.html

The cliff notes version is this... his father committed suicide (family trauma), he was abused by other men for years, he became an abuser and was finally healed later in life, after almost dying of AIDS.

There is a lot you can gain from this authors life experience, as tragic as it is, maybe it will help save a few others.

My other question is more probing. Do you now first hand anyone who was abused against their will and did you do anything about it? Have you thought about what you can do now to heal within yourself or the other?

In my life example: When I was about 14, a younger neighbor bragged to a group of kids raping his little sister. He was a real piece of dirt, a liar, a coward as a kid, lacked a conscience. I didn't know what to make of it and didn't react. As I saw his sister some time later, she seemed traumatized. I regret just letting it go and not informing someone who could intervene. I didn't realize how impactful that would be to someone and I'd receive my own abuse, and just figure you take it as that is life. I don't think either of those two are alive anymore.

Damage is occurring all around us. We have opportunities in life to change lives, for better or worse... all day long! Be aware, be skilled and know that silence... is acceptance.