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My fiancé and I of 8 years had a really rough past couple of years that involved both of us sleeping with other people. (Not cheating, more so like an open relationship). Since we closed up the relationship, things have never been the same. A lot happened, and there were a lot of nasty things said. I have since realized that I am no longer in love with him. I don't even like having sex anymore and I can't stand going anywhere with him. It makes me feel terrible because he still loves me and he thinks things were getting better. So I told him the other night that's I don't know if I love him anymore but that I wanted to find a way to reignite the flame. I used to love him, and we have built so much together. We have two children and a life together. I would much rather be in love with him than anyone else. He seemed to understand, it hurt but he said that he didn't want to lose me. However I feel like there's a good chance he will throw in the towel. He is insecure so he always feels like he isn't good enough and I feel like he will think that he can't make me fall in love with him again.
If someone told you they didn't love you anymore but wanted to make things work, would you stay or would you leave?

I have borderline personality disorder. being in a relationship is very hard for me. i fear commitment but crave it at the same time. i have pushed my boyfriend from 1,5 years away from me because it was hard for me to trust him due to my disorder. i went no contact for 2 months and he kept asking me to take him back. we broke up December 5 2015. two weeks ago he send me a message that he wanted to move on because he didn't think we would ever be together again because i never answered his texts. he also told me he was always gonna love me and that he really wanted to be my friend. he was very heartbroken and i felt very guilty. i never wanted to hurt him so bad , i thougt i wasn't good enough for him since i never trusted him and my disorder was getting in the way. yesterday i messaged him to meet me agian and maybe watch a movie. he told me that this wouldn't be a good idea since he only wanted a friendship which i didn't understand because he missed me so much. he told me that a week ago he has been in a relationship with some other girl. it crushed my heart to pieces. he told me he missed me just two days before his new relationship. it doesn't make sense to me. then he started getting mad because i didn't want him as a friend because i just couldn't handle that. i didn't answer because he was soooo mad. i went to bed and then suddenly he messaged me again... he blamed me for the pain he was feeling again because of my text. i called him and i told him he can't have us both and then he chose her. i told him to please not contact me again then. he agreed.
i'm so confused. do i ever have a chance again with this guy? does he really love this girl? i have never had a connection with someone like that before. he is everything to me. my best friend and lover and i just miss him so much , it is so sad. i went to therapy for him and i really wanted to work it out. thank you for reading :) please tell me what you think, it could really help me.

my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months. and I have lied, cheated, disrespected, and basically hurt him to the point he doesn't care no more. I understand what I did he didn't deserve it at all. we can't go at least one day or week without some BULLSHIT. and I'm willing to do any and everything to get his love and trust back. I want to be settled down with him and no one else. he doesn't believe anything that I say, even if it's the truth. and lately their has been some coincidental stuff that happens to me. and when I tell him, he's like "yeah... whatever you say." I get mad sometimes but then I remember that I can't. because I caused all of this. so my question to y'all is:

1. is there ANY chance of us getting pass this?

2. what advice can y'all give me?