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I appreciates detailed opinions. I think teachers should only be allowed physical contact with students if they approves. If a student don't want a hug or be touched, they shouldn't be forced to it. It's a difference between a handshake and a hug. Hugging people is too intimate and we all have different personal spaces.

One of my siblings are still in high school and her class had a mental health day in school. It was a guy who visited school to talk about it and according to her he was probably in his 40s. Before he entered the class room, he hanged with some girls (pupils) and my sister randomly walked past. She told me that he touched two girls' hair, back of the necks and shoulders. They probably had met him before and ignored it. The thing she said she noticed was that he only touched girls like that. He only did handshakes and give me five with the boys. He also grabbed and touched my sister's forearm when she gave him a handshake. Every pupils had to give him a handshake. She said to me 10 seconds wasn't enough for him and he wanted to do it in 15 - 20 seconds.

For me this sounds like a weird behavior. I don't think he wanted to be inappropriate or bad, but he shouldn't treat girls and boys differently. He should also treat shy people with more respect. Shy people are shy for a reason and needs time. Don't invade their personal space too much! Touching strangers in that way is also weird. Which good professional wants to touch girls' neck and hair?

A question that has always kinda interested me, A lot of guys will tell you that girls want a jerk, a guy who doesn't care about them, others will tell that no that is far from the truth and you can always be kind a get girls , not nice but kind, as in a person who genuinley wants good and is not faking it to reach his goal... dont get mr wrong though iam not saying weak or doesn't stand up for himself iam saying, kind and good.

I had 2 gfs, both cute, both very nice (well the second kinda hot and cold but she was still nice ) and i absolutly adored that quality about them, they were laid back like me and really nice and kind... and they chose to date me... girls usually fine me very good looking and are not shy about it but iam far from a bad boy even though i look like one and can act like one if iam super pissed (uncommon though) , i think twice before doing something cause i understand that sometimes people are going through a rough day/week and they aren't being as*holes just cause... even when my ex whom i truly had strong feelings for decided to end things, i was cool and nice about it and wished her good luck and assured her that its all good and its not always meant to be.

sometimes i doubt myself and wonder why i do what i do, other times iam genuinly satisfied with how i react to such issues, how iam extremely loyal and faithful ( i dont even hug another girl if iam dating someone... well i dont like hugging random peopel in general but still ) and aim to be a good person.

my question is pretty simple, assuming the guy is not a loser and the physical attraction is there, is being kind and good a must, a plus or a deal breaker?