5 Surefire Steps to Facing Possessive Boy/Girlfriend Behavior

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The stamp of courtship does not mean that the couple claims ownership rights to you so that he feels entitled to intervene in all aspects of your life to the most trivial things.

The five right moves below can help you deal with possessive girlfriends without drama.

1. Say honestly that you object to his attitude

If the nature of the boyfriend's control has begun to make you uncomfortable, you should immediately ask him to talk privately. Talk casually but firmly without having to pull the veins so that your intentions are conveyed clearly.

Remind couples that even though you and he have an exclusive relationship, each of them still has interests, freedoms, and personal life that cannot be arbitrarily arranged unilaterally. You have your own life and routine, and so do you.

2. Don't be angry

To try the things above, definitely need patience and very, very large understanding. Then you are expected to be able to control your emotions as best you can to deal with possessive boyfriend behavior.

If both are equally emotional, ask for time to be alone to cool the head. The more you overreact, the more your partner will have the upper hand to control you.

3. Find out what caused it

After you devote what has stuck in your heart, now is the time for you to ask your partner what makes him possessive. If possessive boyfriend behavior is caused because he feels insecure and is afraid of you turning away or even because of blind jealousy you are afraid to hurt his feelings.

Say it firmly but without emotion that you also love and love your partner, but don't want to be restrained and controlled. That way, your partner can no longer look for opportunities to defend themselves or blame you.

4. Give more understanding

After you and your partner both straighten out the problem, try to show more attention to your partner. You can hug him to ease his anxiety when he doesn't want to lose you.

5. Make the boundaries of the relationship so as not to be more possessive

To deal with possessive girlfriend behavior, you can set limits on dating partners.

Reported by PsychCentral, psychologist Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph.D said that you need to determine the limits where you and your partner may behave, speak and prohibit something that is felt to have exceeded the limit and will have a negative impact on the relationship together.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • What if they're really hotheaded though? no matter how you speak to them, they always accuse you of doing the wrong and start shouting etc.

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    • after repeatedly trying, he still hasn't changed, so it's better to look for new ones, we live together, not live to master one

Most Helpful Guy

  • I dated a woman for 3 years who was like this. She was beyond help from my perspective. She didn't respond to any attempt on my part to tone down the behavior. Wow those were 3 long years. LOL...

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What Girls Said 5

  • 6. break up
    7. break up
    8. break up
    9. break up
    10. tell them to suck a dildo and dip.

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  • Good points 👍

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  • Thanks gonna use these :D

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  • Good take

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  • Courtship is not boyfriend and girlfriend. It is before exclusive dating is even established BETWEEN the two persons interested in each other. No kissing or any physical relations during the courtship phase. It's strictly platonic. They just spend more time with only each other, courting each other after some more time months to years to see if they are truly compaitable to enter in an agreement to move the courtship to the next level.

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    • The best solution is to actually go through the courtship phase first so that way you all enter in a monogamous relationship where both of you already are compatible in many ways.

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    • That first date or second date kiss is called the dating stage. Thats not courtship phase.

    • Your definition of courtship is from your own ideas of what it means. I was defining it to what it actually means.

What Guys Said 6

  • These are some good guidelines for establish boundaries but you must always be realistic in appraising a situation. Most people who are possessive and controlling do so for reasons that reflect very deep psychological faults and the guidelines/boundaries will tell us when to leave the relationship but are unlikely to change their behavior.

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  • Good Take. I think #5 is most crucial to getting this under control.

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  • I've seen people getting so possessive and it gets toxic to a point tbh

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  • I used to work with a guy who was so bad he would follow his girlfriend into the bathroom.

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  • Sure. How 'bout just not date them? Duh.

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  • Don't go out more than 2 times a week (or 3 times at the very most).

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