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I've always been told that "the guy is supposed to chase" or that "if a guy likes you, he will make a move." But I have heard of countless relationships - successful ones at that - starting because the girl made the first move. As well, I've been in positions where a shy guy seemed to have interest in me, but I never did anything and neither did he. I sometimes wonder if I had took initiative how that would have worked. Guys, would a girl making the first move steer you away from her? Or do you guys find that appealing? Girls, have you made the first move before? How did things work out?
(By first move, I mean showing a definite sign of interest. It can be anything from telling the guy she likes him, asking for his number, asking him out, e. t. c).

Guys, I have been in FBW relationship since June. The guy lives in a different city and I kept coming to visit him and his friends a lot during summer. He loves someone else... but the girl lives on a different continent and they could only see each other for a few months this year before she left again. At the same time he was saying he loves her he was also having sex with me when she was gone travelling - I know how it sounds... like I am sort of an "empty space filler"...

Me and and the guy are just so irresistibly attracted to each other that it's just insane.. But I developed feelings for him and he didn't. I was trying to stop it, told him I want this over, told him how I feel, but it keeps happening when I am around and we have this intense time over and over again.

I saw him last week.. The girl he loves came back so he's alone... and he offered me to sleep together. And again... how do I feel about it? Like now it's my turn again as long as the other girls is not around.. But I said yes to it... and even thougt we were making out all night an it got super hot, for the first time I managed to stop things when they were going too far. In the end we had more of a cuddling than sex.. And he started to kiss me, which rarely happened before... it felt like he wants me to feel good and he listened to me when I told him it doesn't feel good without kissing. We talk a lot.. He says it's not only physical attraction towards me but he also very much likes me, how we know each other, how we talk and all that is dragging him towards me. He said he always has warmth towards me even if the other girl is around.

Guys, Girls.. I really need an advice.. the problem of me having feelings towards him is making this hard sometimes.. Do you think that something more could ever happen between us? Do you think it's a waste of time for me? How can I make him want me more, chase me a little? Or maybe... should I just let it go?

thanks for help!