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I'm engaged & I am temporarily in a financial dilemma. i recently graduated college & received my license to work but in order to do so I have to pay $1000 due to bad decisions that i made in my past. I ask my fiancé for the amount (I am NOT at all comfortable asking anyone for money, even him) & he (very financially stable, high income) told me he couldn't help
Me. He also stated that he doesn't want the relationship to be about money. Something about him doesn't trust me for some odd reason & I don't know why he would state such a thing seeing that I NEVER ask him for anything & don't feel comfortable. I understand but he's my last hope or else I will be in a huge dilemma. I know it's my fault & be should not be responsible for my problems but shouldn't he help me? Since I never ask & were together. I've even had my ex offer to help me ( I said no of course, out of respect for my relationship & I felt it wasn't appropriate.) do I have a right to be alittle upset?

We've been dating for about 5 weeks now, but it's just talking a little in the week and spending time together (5-6 hours) once a week. We both have pretty busy schedules. Haven't really talked about a relationship or anything, so I don't really know where we're at. Haven't gotten too far physically either, though there's a lot of chemistry there and I know he really wants to. So do I on some level, I just don't feel like I know him well enough, and I'd want to know he's not seeing other people before going there.

He still seems pretty active on Tinder though, and I don't know if that's significant or not. It can be entertaining and something to kill boredom; maybe he's just platonically talking, or swiping... or maybe he's still chatting up other girls and dating them.

How do I know he's pretty active? Well, I'm not because I'm kinda done talking to people on there, but I've randomly opened it up after many days or like a week of inactivity, and every time I have I see that he was just active an hour ago/minutes ago or something.

switched phones for a weekend or even a day, do you think you'd still be together or at least not fight?

**This is just a general question, nothing to do with how you feel about looking at your significant others phone**

Alright, so simply put, I'm simply seeing if there is truth to this. Women, need love, its their basic emotional need. However, women naturally love their significant other and when i've asked women that come to me about relationship problems if they love their boyfriend/husband, without hesitation, they say "yes, of course" however if I ask them if they respect them, they always hesitate, some even say no.

I feel like guys NEED respect in order to feel loved. Ya know? I mean relationship problems seem to turn into a cycle of;
Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love. and it just keeps going
and I don't feel like girls understand this, because by nature we are taught to show that we love someone, it almost seems like making sure our guy feels respected is a foreign concept.

so here is my question guys: what is more important to you? like on a deep level, what would you rather your girlfriend/wife make known to you? that they love you? or respect you?