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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. To try and cut this as short as possible, I found him on plenty of fish back in June. Upon confrontation, he got the usual (and red flag) defensive, it wasn't me, that's bs, I don't even care, etc. attitude. Eventually, he admitted it. I have always had all of his passwords. It shows him signed up to ALL of these dating sites from Hot or Not to Country Singles (lol). We got into a huge fight over it because he swears up and down that he is not on any of the sites. I confronted him on Cupid. com, by making my own profile (yeah, went crazy girl status with that one), and saying "Gee, nice to see you on here!" to him. So, when he called that night, he acted normal, I brought it up, huge fight incurred. "This is ridiculous. I'm tired of you always accusing me. I feel like you make stuff up just to have a reason to fight, etc." He knows, or should know, how much I love/care about him. Keep in mind, he says he cares about me, but has not said he loves me. I said it to him in a drunken confession. Sometimes I feel ignored by him. But, really, I just don't know what to think. He'll go through these things where he just gets distant. So I give him space, then he gets mad and asks what I've been doing, why I haven't called, why IM being distant, etc. THEN (and I swear the VERY NEXT DAY) he tells me that I'm just a "needy girl." Uh?
I mean, literally, confusion has hit me like a ton of bricks. He treats me really good at times, but he will say things that make me feel like I'm worthless. I know "love is blind", so, from anyone's opinion, is this normal?
Also FYI, I only looked into what HE was doing months ago because he kept accusing ME of things all of the time. Sometimes he's really there, other times he's aloof and just kind of mean? He throws things in my face A LOT, which now I have started doing as well. I just don't know. Is there a chance? Or am I being stupid for even considering it?

My guy friend and I message on and off all day, almost every day. He does and says almost every one of the "signs a guy is into you" from the Internet but of course he won't make it easy by just saying, "I want you." He tells me stuff like that he's a nudist and has condoms and lube in his room. He's told me that girls approach him for hookups (and one 3way) but he said no bc he wasn't into any of them. He asks me about stuff I would be into, 3ways, hook ups with friends and period sex are recent examples.

I know he's not trying to use me because he was super excited when I admitted that I like him and he kept telling everyone that I reciprocated! He keeps joking around about me sounding like his gf or that we sound like gf/bf... but that would be ridiculous! ( his words), so I just say OBviously and want to die. I know joking and teasing are signs but it makes me crazy! I just want to scream just tell me what you want!
We've said we love each other ( as friends), he's pecked my cheek, laid his head on me and nuzzled, sits glued to my side, stares into my eyes ( it feels like we're doing it), pats my upper arm, shoulders, lower back and gives me giant hugs from behind. He always tells everyone how awesome I am.

Sooo... I may be crazy but are we just friends? I don't think so but that's what he says. Could he be afraid to make a move on me? I know he respects me and cares about me a lot.

However... I'm not worried about ruining our friendship by adding sex. How can I make that clear without sending him Rihanna lyrics? ;) I don't want to freak him out by letting him know how much I want him. Do guys want to hear that?

Today just to tease him I said I was going to work out, get all sweaty and jump in the pool. His response: yum. That was it. Is that guy talk for let's get naked? He teases me so much that I asked him if he was always sarcastic and he said no. I said good and I'll keep that in mind ;)

What do I do now?