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I met and fell in love with a fellow gager. As our relationship was progressing he fell chronically ill and died. He had a friend that he gave his password for his computer to (it was the same one for his gag account) and my number to contact me since he was in the hospital. Said person has been very difficult to deal with but I have been as kind as I could to her. She asked me once where we met, I said online, she asked what site and I told her. Not thinking that she would go onto his computer, type in the website and log into it. Also at the time I did not know she had even his computer or his password.

I told her then that it is wrong to go into his account since he was a very private person. She agreed, however because she is jealous of our relationship (she openly told me that many times) she has resorted to coming onto his account. She claimed she was logging in to see how I was doing. I told her that was a fucked up excuse to go and read his private account, since I told her via whatsapp that I'm good. He told me that his gag stuff nobody IRL knows of. He was a private person, even with her he was reserved.

She has also been the one who when he died in April, did not tell me he died, but rather in May told me that he would come back in September because I kept asking for him. I tried many times to get his family's contacts so that when he was carried to his home country I could still get messages to him. She never gave it to me. Again keep in mind that she KNEW how close we were to each other. She was cold with me from the start and so I realized along the way that she had liked him. She constantly asked me about his private business, even being so bold-faced as to beg me to see our private conversations.

Am I blowing this out of proportion? Is there anything I can do? Can gag leave his account active so that I can still read our old posts, but change the password or something? PLEASE advise me. I asked this ANON so she would not see it in my feed.

So here are some specific details.
- Together almost 2 years, not married
- You have proof with screenshots
- They had intentions of sending pictures because your S/O asked for pictures
- The woman/man they flirting with lives in another state
- The conversation happened a week ago and they stopped flirting but you S/O didn't tell you about this or expect you to see it
- They only did this with one stranger
- You know your S/O would break up with you over this but they don't want you to break up with them.
- They are old enough to know this was not only wrong but a calculated decision
- They boast about how they are loyal and expect you to be. And don't trust you, making you take pics when you are out because they want proof you aren't cheating. But here they are..
- They told you it's not a big deal and they made many different excuses, then eventually apologized

Personally, this is like a crack in a mirror. Weakens the integrity of the person, weakens loyalty, weakens trust. It's an opener for cheating. This is how it starts out. With just one person small flirting then it builds up over time with more people and pictures. This is a red flag. I understand if they want to break up because the S/O shoulda known better and don't have time for games. But I believe most people will say it depends or they will work it out since it's just the beginning.